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The holidays are over and so is your marriage – now what?

It has long been known that the first Monday of January is considered “Divorce Day.” The Christmas tree comes down, and so does the hammer, although the seed is often planted by one of the spouses before the holidays. According to some estimates, divorce inquiries rise by 300% during the month of January.

Research on 500 divorcees commissioned by a family law provider showed that men are marginally more likely than women to hold off on proceeding with a divorce until after a family occasion. Overall, women are more likely to begin a conversation about separating than men. Some of the most common reasons include adultery, falling out of love, and arguing more frequently.

If you are one of these couples, or you know a couple beginning the divorce process, be aware that there are many ways to get divorced other than going to court, like:

  • Collaborative divorce;
  • Mediation; or
  • Integrated mediation.

Any type of alternative dispute resolution can make the whole process of divorce easier because it allows the couple to design their own roadmap, rather than living by the court calendar. The roadmap will also allow the couple to take whatever pace they choose in order to finalize the divorce. Another advantage is that alternative dispute resolution is completely confidential and there is no airing of dirty laundry into the public record.

Note: Georgia has a 31 day wait, meaning from the time somebody files in court they have to wait 31 days before the court can act.

Rome wasn’t built in a day – why would you expect to get divorced in a day?

Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA

Collaborative Practice and Mediation Services
bob@u2agree.com
888 U2AGREE (888.822.4733)
 

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