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Perhaps you’ve heard about the phenomenon known as the “grey divorce” and are wondering what it’s all about. An important study conducted by the Department of Sociology and the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University entitled “The Grey Divorce Revolution” addressed this issue. I was attending the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts’ annual conference in Orlando where I saw Justin Reckers, do a presentation about the study and offered us a few insights:

Typically, those who are considered as going through a grey divorce are couples over the age of 50.

In 2010, over 640,000 people in this age group got divorced. That's roughly one in four divorces, compared to one in ten in 1990. If we assume that these rates remain constant over the next two decades, a conservative assumption would be that the number of people over age 50 that experience divorce in 2030 would rise by â…“, to over 828,000.

What are some of the concerns of those going through a grey divorce?:

  • “I’ve worked for more than 30 years to support my family and now I’m ready to slow down, but the divorce will keep me from doing so.”

  • “Why does my spouse want a divorce when we’re both in our 60s and don’t have much time left?”

  • “I don't want to end up a burden to my children now that I cannot support myself and have no spouse to care for me.”

  • “We chose not to save aggressively for retirement because my husband expects a large inheritance. If we get divorced, I will have no right to that inheritance.”

  • “My husband has been gifting assets to the children from his first marriage. I’m worried that there's not going to be anything left for me.”

How can a CDFA or other professional help people going through a grey divorce?

1) Retirement planning:

  • Social Security

  • Pension Maximization

  • Taxes affecting retirement income

2) Estate Planning:

  • Legacy planning

  • Current or planned asset gifts programs

  • Co-ownership of assets

3) Health care:

  • Current health care planning

  • Long term health care insurance

4) Alimony:

  • Short duration of marriages

  • Splitting fixed income

  • Lump sum buyouts

If you are experiencing a grey divorce, it's important to contact a CDFA or other divorce financial professional to help with these issues.

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