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Springtime in the Rockies and Your Relationships

“Partly Cloudy, Windy, Sun Mixed with Occasional Snow Showers”: Springtime in the Rockies & Your Relationships

We had snow the first weekend in April, driving, blinding, Colorado blizzard-type snow. The interstate north of us was closed, and cars were off the roads all over the place. I drive out to a local dairy on Saturdays to pick up our weekly dairy order, and could hardly see the road in some places; the wind was blowing snow so badly.

Two days later, it was warm, sunny, still, and my husband was outside pruning shrubbery, which has tender new green growth on all the plants in our garden. The crabapple tree in front of my office window is covered in buds, and looks likely to burst open in a profusion of pink blossoms any day now.

My dad used to say, “If you don’t like the weather in Colorado, just wait a minute”. This is never truer than in springtime. The season of spring - a time of new beginnings, new growth - is a bumpy, up and down time. Cold one day, hot the next, wind mixed with snow, mixed with sun. Springtime in the Rockies can be quite ride. Probably the most changeable season we have, far more so than autumn, spring is the season of biggest transition for us.

Eventually the weather evens out more, and we gradually find ourselves in summer. Summers in Colorado are wonderful - warm, sometimes hot days, but low humidity so you don’t feel exhausted all the time. Cool nights when the earth and the garden and families become refreshed. Summer in Colorado is a steady, even season. A few thunderstorms in July or August, but that is about all the storminess we have that time of year. No wonder we have crowds of tourists in summer as well as winter!

Relationships go through transitions, too, which subscribers read about this month in Creating Joy! the Relationship E-newsletter. Just as springtime in the Rockies can be a bumpy, tumultuous time of transition, but which does even out to the “lazy, hazy days of summer” in Colorado, so too, can the bumpy transition periods of relationships even out to stages of sweet fulfillment and fruition.

This month, even as you are creating a peaceful divorce, begin preparing yourself for a new happy marriage, and learn about the foundation Stages of Married Love, including which stages are the most tender transition points. At the end of this three-part article which concludes with the June 09 issue, discover my gleanings from over thirty years of observing thriving marriages, and what smart couples do through all the stages of their lives together, to Make Love Last a Lifetime!

If you don’t already subscribe to this free monthly ezine with timely inspiration and practical tips for creating the thriving marriage of your dreams, you can do so now:

When you do, you will receive the April issue with your confirmed subscription.

May this be a season of new beginnings, and of planting seeds for the marriage of your dreams!

Warmly,
Debra

Debra Gordy, MS MRET
Spiritual Healing Intuitive
Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach

Author of the forthcoming book, Cinderella Wisdom: A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to Living Her Heart's Desire


www.DebraGordyMS.com

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