In October 2013, I was attending the annual conference of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators in Denver. While there I met colleagues from around the country who had a great deal to share about both the fiscal and emotional aspects of divorce. It was an intense learning experience for everyone involved, but we were lucky enough to be able to stop taking notes for a while and get engrossed in a preview of a film directed by Ellen Bruno titled Split.
“Split gives us the children's perspective on divorce. No adults, no experts, just kids speaking the powerful truth of what is on their minds and in their hearts. Their wisdom, candor and humor will be encouraging to other children and encourage parents to make better choices as they move through divorce”.
I found the film to be compelling because it deals with a heavy topic in a positive light and offers a degree of hope that might have been absent. It will definitely make a positive impact on the conversation about divorce.
Almost half of the children in the U.S. will experience their parents’ separation before the age of 16. That’s more than any other country in the Western world.
I also encourage my colleagues to look at this film as a tool they can use in their own practices, especially to show to their clients to help them understand there is a way other than going to court. The film is broken into chapters, whose titles themselves might be a cause for reflection for divorcing mothers and fathers:
While Split testifies on behalf of the children of divorce, I would think twice about showing the film to younger children, who may not be able to appreciate the resiliency of the kids featured in it.
Speaking as a parent who divorced over 30 years ago, I got the sense that these kids are going to be okay.
Ellen Bruno and her creative team should be lauded for this movie that speaks volumes in only 29 minutes.