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Knowing When to Ask for Help by Robert D. Bordett In my practice, I call upon my professional network often.

Mediators like myself - who are trained in the financial piece of divorce - often reach out to other professionals when it comes to helping with the emotional side of divorce. This is the essence of team mediation; forming a team of professionals whose skills and training complement each other.

I've been practicing the team mediation model for some time, and I enjoy it tremendously. My clients find that this method affords them an opportunity to work with a neutral who is an expert in something they need. For example:

  • A divorce coach will often be successful at reaching agreements where mediators are not. This is an example of an instance in which I would offer the names of several coaches from my professional network.
  • In the case of a family that has several real estate holdings with mortgages, dividing assets will be a big component of their plan. Again I would draw on my professional network, this time to consult with real estate professionals.


Knowing when to ask for help is an important skill, but not everyone appreciates how necessary it is. My years of working with couples going through the upheaval of divorce have taught me that I, too, should ask for help when my clients need it. That is why I am so active at continuing my education at conferences and seminars around the country, where I can build my professional network with like-minded colleagues in Alternative Dispute Resolution.

To find out more about Alternative Dispute Resolution, mediating or collaborative divorce, call 1-888-U2-AGREE.

 

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