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The main component of mediation is the mediator. That is why it’s important to make sure you select the right mediator to help you in your unique situation. Many times mediators are chosen by the attorneys, especially in court-ordered mediation — but in private mediation the parties may just look to choose the mediator.

Below is a short list with some items you will want to know before you settle on the mediator.

  • Subject matter: What is the experience of the mediator on the subject matter specific to your case? For example: Does the mediator have tax knowledge? Does he or she have family experience in dealing with parenting plans?
  • Mediator style: Does he or she use a facilitative style, or are they more passive?
  • Education: How much training have they had? Do they have any certifications, like a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™?
  • Setting: Where does the mediator like to hold the meditation sessions?
  • Cost: What are the mediator’s rates? If hourly, is there a minimum charge? How do you pay the fees?
  • Results: What do you expect from the mediator?


It takes time to find the right mediator, and you should resist the temptation to just go with the first one you meet. If you would like more information about how a multidisciplinary team including a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ can help you, contact me here or call 1.888.U2AGREE 

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