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The last week of September and the first week of October were busy ones for me. I had the pleasure of spending time learning more about the latest issues in divorce planning and Alternative Dispute Resolution methods.

I spent over 48 hours taking courses, learning new ideas and practices, all regarding divorce, and all over a two-week span. What I came to realize is that information is changing everyday. No one person can keep up to date with all of the new techniques to ease the impact of divorce on families. That includes keeping up to date on taxes, health care, retirement plans, news ways to manage emotions, the new family structure and much more.   

In Chicago, I attended several days of classes at a gathering sponsored by The Association of Divorce Financial Planners (ADFP). Then it was off to the rarefied air of Denver, CO to meet and attend classes on various topics at the annual nationwide meeting of The Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM).

My curriculum consisted of the following classes:

  • Estate Planning Pitfalls During and After Divorce

  • Corporate Fiduciaries

  • Spousal Health Insurance Continuation and the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act of 2012

  • Post-DOMA for Same-Sex Married and Unmarried Couples

  • The Critical Role of the Financial Planner to the Divorce Process

  • Post-Decree Issues – Is the Divorce Finished or Not?

  • The Taxpayer Relief Act of 2012: Navigating the New Tax Environment

  • Bankruptcy Issues in Divorce and Mediation

  • Co-mediation Models

  • Mediating Financial Issues: Attorneys and Divorce Financial Professionals Working Together

  • Divorce Coaching

  • Critical Financial Errors Made with Divorcing Clients

In addition we had a preview of a movie titled SPLIT.

SPLIT shows us the children's perspective on divorce... no adults, no experts… just kids speaking the powerful truth of what is on their minds and in their hearts. Their wisdom, candor, and humor will give courage to other children, and encourage parents to make better choices as they move through divorce. You can learn more about this inspirational film at

I look forward to applying the knowledge I have gained to real world situations, and to share my experience with other experts at another, future meeting. The process of testing new theories and adjusting them is somewhat scientific, but that does not detract from the human aspect of divorce, which is really the point of what we do: Help people.


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