What would you like your relationship with your spouse or ex-spouse to look like? Have you ever thought about it? How can you get what you want, if you don't know what you want?
Most people spend their time thinking about what they don't want, rather than what they do want. You know that what you focus on expands.
How about sitting down and figuring out what your perfect relationship with them would look like? Whether you are going to stay married or get divorced?
If you're thinking, “Nothing! I don’t want anything to do with them, ever again!”, think again. You haven’t let go until you can be okay with however it goes.
So think about that perfect relationship with your spouse or ex. Think about it every day. Feel how great it would feel, especially for your families and mutual friends, if it played out that way. Share these inspired ideas with them.
Watch in amazement how quickly things change for the better as you see yourselves working together as a team. It sure beats the alternative!
It’s simple. Focus on what you want.
Cynthia Tiano, Esq.
Author, "Happily Divorced! Secrets of the Win-Win Formula"