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Is Your Divorce Lawyer on Board With A Peaceful Divorce?


I know that divorce lawyers have a pretty bad reputation when it comes to fueling the fires between divorcing couples. Most people believe that they only want to fight, especially since they make more money the longer the fight goes on.
I’m here to tell you as a divorce mediator that this has not really been my experience. Sure, some divorce attorneys prolong the fight, but there really are lots of them out there that do care, and want to help you navigate the difficult divorce waters as quickly and easily as possible.
One way you can see if your divorce lawyer or a divorce lawyer you are considering hiring is on board with a peaceful divorce, is to simply ask them the question.
Do they believe in the concept of peaceful divorce? Do they practice it? Do they think they can approach your case in a peaceful and civilized fashion, so that you and your spouse, and your children if you have them, can heal and move forward toward a better life for all?
Remember, it is you who are driving the train in your divorce. Your divorce lawyer works for you, and knows that you have lots of divorce lawyers to choose from. They want to represent you, and will almost always follow your lead. You set the tone for your divorce attorney. I’ll bet they either already are on board, or will quickly get on board with a peaceful divorce, if you are determined to have one!

If not, fire them and hire one who is!

Cynthia Tiano, Esq.
"The Mediator"
Author, "Happily Divorced! Secrets of the Win-Win Formula"

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Comment by Frank Marciano on March 7, 2008 at 1:24am
Great attitude and lets not forget the real and pernicious effect that billable hours has on the divorce process. The reality is that most big firms put so much pressure on partners and associates to charge billable hours that they will be minimized in their firm if their divorces are not filled with useless discovery motions and inflated hours.

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