In my 30 years as a divorce attorney, and especially the last 16 years that I have been a divorce mediator, and now as a counselor, a phrase I have heard very often when I get up on my soapbox about Peaceful Divorce is, “but you don’t know my ex!” or “it’s not possible to have a peaceful divorce in my situation”. Not so. You CAN learn how to get a divorce the peaceful way, whether your spouse or ex is on board right now or not. Continue
Now that may not be what you want to hear because what it…
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 22, 2012 at 10:00am —
Thanks to member Krista Barth, Esq. who has provided this valuable message about how to create and maintain a peaceful divorce when you are a parent.
As a divorce attorney who has been through it myself, a peaceful divorce starts when people do the following:
1. Accept the part you each played in the failure of the marriage (even if the only fault was "picking the wrong partner for your needs.")
2. Lower your expectations… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 15, 2010 at 8:00am —
Generously shared by member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
One of the consequences of a difficult divorce is being left with negative emotions about the experience. Many people struggle with long-term anger, bitterness,
revenge and/or rage following a divorce that they either can't, or choose not
Are you angry or bitter because you feel wronged by your former… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 12, 2010 at 1:00pm —
Here is another great article from member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
Parenting after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges and raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this two-part article we'll review some of the major components of the post-divorce parenting success formula.
Step 1: ATTITUDE
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on December 11, 2009 at 12:27am —
Here is another great article from member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT:
When children get caught up in their parent's divorce conflicts, serious problems can develop that must be avoided at all costs. Regardless of your feelings about your ex or soon-to-be-former spouse, it is essential to keep that from your children.
Here are some excellent tips and advice offered by James Roberts, RSW, a licensed social worker in Missouri and Kansas and family therapist in Kansas. Mr. Roberts… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on October 7, 2009 at 11:30am —
Here is a great article by our dear member Rosalind Sedacca, CC
T. It's a must read!
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Preparing to break the news to your kids that you’re divorcing their other parent? Feeling insecure about how to broach the subject? Wondering how much to share? How your children will react? How to handle their questions? How to deal with your special circumstances? What the experts suggest?
Well you’re not alone.
Talking about divorce to your children is tough. You… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on August 25, 2009 at 3:00pm —
The Florida Bar has approved the course proposal submitted by Peaceful Divorce Project, consisting of your very own Peaceful Divorce Members Cynthia Tiano, Esq., Cindy Harari, Esq. and John T. Mulhull III, Esq.
This first course is "Introduction to the Peaceful Divorce Model
," an intermediate level course with ethics credit. This means we will be teaching THE LAWYERS about Peaceful Divorce.
We plan to create Peaceful Divorce education and certification programs for… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 30, 2009 at 3:30pm —
This post was written by member Rosalind Sedacca
, founder of Child Centered Divorce Month taking place during the month of July.
Divorce can be very costly -- both physically and emotionally. Join author and divorced mother of four Christina Rowe, founder of ChildSharing, Michelle Muncy and Divorce Financial Analyst Lisa Decker as they share insights about pro-actively planning your divorce to avoid the pitfalls of financial and psychological devastation
-- for you and… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 28, 2009 at 3:00pm —
Written By Rosalind Sedacca
The third annual National Child-Centered Divorce Month, taking place throughout July, is being launched with a series of complimentary teleseminars and bonus gifts for parents.
Divorce book author, Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, a certified corporate trainer recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce, initiated National Child-Centered Divorce Month. “These weeks are dedicated to helping parents make the best possible decisions regarding… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 3, 2009 at 5:00pm —
Member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
wrote this important post. Please read and pass it on!
We all do it from time to time. Make a sarcastic comment about our ex, criticize something they did or didn't do, gesture or grimace our faces when referring to our former spouse. When we do it in front of, near or within hearing distance of our children, we set ourselves up for a hornet's nest of problems.
We have all heard this, but it's easy to forget or let slide. It hurts… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on June 30, 2009 at 9:30am —
Many people have asked me why I turned from being a successful, aggressive divorce attorney to a mediator. It is a question that I have been asked over and over again for a dozen years now. I admit that I never really delved deeply into the question, just answered it with some general statements like, “It was no longer in line with my truth,” or “My spiritual growth would no longer allow me to ignore the damage I was doing to families,” or some such.
Now, to a large extent, these… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 4, 2009 at 4:30pm —
The mega-divorce site, Divorce 360, has reviewed founding member Cynthia Tiano's book and audio program, "Happily Divorced! Secrets of the Win-Win Formula"
. Here is what they had to say:
"Cynthia Tiano was once considered a "killer" as a divorce attorney. She was respected by fellow attorneys and feared by their clients, who worried what they'd lose when they faced her in divorce court. It wasn't until her own divorce that she began to wonder about her tactics.
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on March 4, 2009 at 5:00pm —
Check out this great article from our member Belinda Rachman, Esq.
and please share it with anyone you think it might help!
When you had your child or children your life changed from being focused on yourself to suddenly having to consider how all your life choices would impact the kids. That is the way it should be. What is in the child's best interest should always be a parent's top priority especially when considering divorce. Continue
The first thing you should know is our…
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 24, 2008 at 7:30am —
I know that divorce lawyers have a pretty bad reputation when it comes to fueling the fires between divorcing couples. Most people believe that they only want to fight, especially since they make more money the longer the fight goes on.
I’m here to tell you as a divorce mediator that this has not really been my experience. Sure, some divorce attorneys prolong the fight, but there really are lots of them out there that do care, and want to help you navigate the… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 23, 2008 at 10:57am —
Here is a great article by our own Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
, founder of ChildCenteredDivorce.com
that would benefit everyone to read, and to pass on:
Divorce is a highly emotional topic. When children are involved the consequences are far more dramatic - and, not surprisingly, so are our opinions. I know there are many people who sincerely believe that no divorce is a good divorce. That children are always and inevitably harmed by the physical and emotional separation of their… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 19, 2008 at 6:30pm —
Lisa Fredette, host of the Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce radio show, which airs live every Thursday at 1:00 pm Pacific/4:00 pm Eastern will be interviewing me this Thursday. The topic is How To Create a Peaceful Divorce
. Here are the details from Lisa:
Are you or someone you care about facing divorce? Do you want to avoid the inevitable tug of war with your spouse? Do you dread making that call to find an attorney because you just don't want to fight any longer?… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 9, 2008 at 1:30pm —
Here is a great article written by member Laura Campbell, Divorce Coach
. I know you will get as much out of it as I did!
I recently had the opportunity to drive home from a weekend away with my two children and spend five hours alone in the car with them. At ages 11 and 14, sometimes our time in the car where no one can walk away, ignore or otherwise avoid conversations, is a wonderful opportunity to really gain valuable insight as to how they are feeling.
I have… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 1, 2008 at 6:30pm —
Our own member Roz Sedacca was recently quoted in a major Divorce 360 article posted here. Read on to see what she has to say, and to learn more about whether or not to tell children about an affair:
When former presidential nominee John Edwards admitted he’d cheated on his wife, the question on some minds was how someone touted as a family man told his wife – and his three children about the affair.
“How do you tell your children about the affair? You don’t,” said… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on August 26, 2008 at 10:18am —
West Palm Beach, FL: Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, founder of National Child-Centered Divorce Month
in July, and Cynthia Tiano, Esq., creator of the Celebrity Co-Parent Awards
, have announced that Demi Moore and Bruce Willis are the winners as the Celebrity Co-Parents of the Year at the first annual Celebrity Co-Parent Awards.
“These two parents are ideal role models for families facing the challenges of divorce,” says Sedacca, a Certified Corporate Trainer and author of the… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 26, 2008 at 10:00am —
Do you have any idea what a celebrity divorce costs? I’m talking about those divorces where the celebrity couple decided to battle it out instead of getting a peaceful divorce
Check out these numbers - in the McCartney divorce it was reported that Heather Mills ended up over $3million in debt for her legal bills in her divorce battle with Paul McCartney and had to sell her home to pay off her lawyers! David Hasselhoff’s legal fees in his divorce were reputed to be over… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 9, 2008 at 8:30pm —