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Does Your State Have Collaborative Law Legislation?

Divorce professionals are keenly aware that each state passes and enforces its own set of laws. What is less known is the existence of the Uniform Law Commission (ULC)—and how it is leading the way for a consistent application of collaborative law throughout the country.

The ULC works by identifying which…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on June 9, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

Divorce: The Art of Screwing up Your Children—Book Review by Melody Richardson

Thank you to Melody Richardson of Richardson, Bloom and Lines, LLC of Atlanta, for our first book review. The book being discussed is Dr. Howard Drutman’s book “Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children.” 

Dr. Drutman’s sardonic new book, “Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children”, is a “how-to” book for parents who have become so embroiled in the battle with their children’s other parent that they have become blind to how that battle is screwing up…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 31, 2016 at 5:16pm — No Comments

Important Notes on the Protecting Americans from Tax Hikes Act of 2015

On December 18, 2015, the Protecting Americans from Tax Hikes Act of 2015 was enacted. It extended permanently more than 20 key tax provisions. As well, some of the tax provisions that expired at the end of 2014 were extended for five…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 28, 2016 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Filing an Extension with the IRS

Taxes are one of those unavoidable things that we have to deal with every year. The deadline stays relatively the same, but many of us nonetheless find ourselves scrambling to gather our…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 14, 2016 at 3:30pm — No Comments

4 Issues You Need to Be Aware of When Filing Your Taxes After Divorce

When couples get divorced, they can be respectful and cooperate with each…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

Start the Year on the Right Financial Foot – Create a Budget!

If you got divorced in 2015 or are preparing to divorce in 2016, a budget can become a road map for your…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 27, 2016 at 2:00pm — No Comments

The holidays are over and so is your marriage – now what?

It has long been known that the first Monday of January is considered “Divorce Day.” The Christmas tree comes down, and so does the hammer, although the seed is often planted by one of the spouses before the holidays. According to some estimates, divorce inquiries rise by 300% during the month of January.

Research on 500 divorcees commissioned by…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 14, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

5 New Tax Laws for 2016

5 New Tax Laws for 2016 by Robert D. Bordett

A new year is upon us, bringing with it changes to our tax laws. In order to avoid any trouble with the IRS, plan ahead for these changes.



Penalty for the uninsured:…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 4, 2016 at 12:25pm — No Comments

5 Things You Need To Know About Your Taxes And Divorce

If you divorce in 2015, there are a few important things to be aware of in order to avoid potential hassles. Use this quick cheat sheet well in advance of the filing deadline:

  1. Know your filing status. If you divorced anytime before and up to December 31, 2015, you are considered divorced for the entire year. There is no “part-time married filing…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 28, 2015 at 11:21am — No Comments

3 Important Tax Considerations For People Who Divorced In 2015

If you have been divorced at any time in 2015, there are specific pieces of information you need to be aware of before tax time arrives:



  1. Who claims the children? Prior to 2009, you could…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 8, 2015 at 3:05pm — No Comments

The APFM Conference 2015: What a difference a year makes!

I have attended a lot of conferences in my career, and typically the content is standard mediation-related information. The most recent conference however, hosted by the Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) in Virginia, entitled Selling Peace in…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 12, 2015 at 10:30am — No Comments

Some Highlights from the 2015 ADFP and Center for Mediation and Training Conference in New York City

It’s conference and continuing education time again. This year the Association of Divorce Financial Planners (ADFP) had a joint conference with Center for Mediation & Training, which is located in New York City. The Keynote speaker was Jean Chatzky, a personal finance expert, best-selling author, and the financial editor for NBC’s Today Show. There were several other main speakers, including…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 3, 2015 at 8:00pm — No Comments

Essential Social Security Information That Divorcing Couples Should Be Aware Of

One of the sessions I attended at the Association of Divorce Financial Professionals (ADFP) conference this year was “Everything You Didn’t Know About Social Security” presented by Jacqueline Roessler, CDFA and Melissa Joy, CFP. Their presentation covered the basics of Social…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 8, 2015 at 12:00pm — No Comments

How Does Mediation Work?

How Does Mediation Work by Robert D. Bordett {2 minutes to read} In my previous article, I explained the collaborative process. Today, we learn about mediation.

Mediation is voluntary, private, flexible, and…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 2, 2015 at 1:30pm — No Comments

What Is Collaborative Divorce?

What Is Collaborative Divorce? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA {Read in 3:10 minutes} Over the next several blog articles, I thought I would write about the different models of Alternative Dispute Resolution models for divorcing families.

The collaborative process -- also called collaborative law or collaborative divorce -- is voluntary, private, confidential, and…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 15, 2015 at 5:15pm — No Comments

Getting Back to the Grass Roots of Collaborative Divorce

Getting Back to the Grass Roots of Collaborative Divorce by Robert D. Bordett

How do we really know when a couple is suited for the collaborative process or mediation?

I recently explored this topic at a Practice Organizational Development Group meeting for collaborative divorce professionals.

Much of the discussion focused on how to screen potential clients because Alternative Dispute…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 4, 2015 at 2:48pm — No Comments

Clarity: Not an Optional Ingredient to Mediation

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Clarity in collaborative divorce and mediation, or any type of meeting, is critical.

I had a client whose case began in November, 2014. At the outset, the parties agreed that alimony would be paid for 8 years. The agreement, however, wasn’t reached until June of this year. Guess how each party understood the…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on July 10, 2015 at 1:30pm — No Comments

When Is It Time to Involve outside Experts in Divorce Mediation?

When Is It Time to Involve outside Experts in Divorce Mediation By Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA {Read in 2.3 minutes}

Having relationships with outside experts can be helpful during mediation. Many times these experts are professionals the clients know and possibly work with.

I currently have a mediation case with a husband and wife involved with three LLC companies, all owned by an S corp. The husband owns the majority of the stock, and from the start, wanted…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on June 28, 2015 at 12:53pm — No Comments

Do I LISTEN, or Do I TALK?

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If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got.

- Mark Twain

Mediators can help couples going through divorce by:

  • Establishing ground rules. We can slow down the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 30, 2015 at 2:30pm — No Comments

The Ins and Outs of Mediation Part 2

Mediation Q & A, Part Two By Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA Last week, we answered some questions regarding the mediation process. This week we continue with more questions and answers.

Q: What do I need to bring to the first mediation session?

A: The first session is when both parties learn how the mediation process works. All the facts are brought to the table, and a list of items needed in future…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 14, 2015 at 2:21pm — No Comments

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Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

What About the House?

Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More
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Child Support for Special Needs Children

We know that the divorce rate among all couples is about 50%, but there is no question that divorce rates are even higher among parents of children with special needs.Below is an article that was written by Dr. Howard Drutman and Marsha Schechtman, LCSW. In this article, they talk about the considerations that must be understood about the special needs child. In addition to their information, we also have to think…See More
Mar 28
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Email From the IRS? Don't Believe It

Scam artists have developed a new tactic in cheating taxpayers out of their hard-earned money.Transcript fraud is when taxpayers are lured into opening an attachment that is supposed to be their tax transcript. In fact, the attachment contains malware that will intercept all of your outgoing data, with the intent of capturing account numbers. From there, the thieves withdraw the money and the taxpayer is left without…See More
Feb 21
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

2018 Taxes & Divorce: There Is Still Time

If you are getting divorced or just got divorced the last thing on your mind is taxes. It is important to remember that if you got divorced anytime in 2018 (even Dec. 31, 2018), you will be considered divorced for the whole year of 2018. What does that mean for taxes?It could mean a higher tax bill than you thought.  If you are receiving alimony this year it will be taxable to you.  If you are…See More
Dec 28, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Tax Tips for the Recently Divorced

We are only 4 weeks away from the end of the year. What does that mean for people who have gotten divorced in 2018?It means you have to get ready to file your tax returns for the year ending 2018 by April 15, 2019, or else extend it. Remember, just because you extend it, you still have to pay any tax that you owe by April 15, 2019.If you got divorced in 2017, here are some items you need to think about for tax…See More
Dec 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Elegant Solution: The Child Support Account

Today I’m pleased to bring you a special guest blog written by my colleague Steve Erickson. In his 35 years of experience, Steve has come up with a novel approach to child support that shifts couples away from being adversarial and toward collaboration. This method is called the Child Support Account, and it was originally proposed…See More
Nov 15, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Withholding: A Down Payment, not a Tax

In my experience, many people do not know the difference between the withholding amount (the taxes deducted on your pay stub) and their tax liability. All they know is that they don’t have the money. They think they’re square with the government, and are surprised if they owe any amount on top of what was withheld. That’s why I thought it would be useful to review the…See More
Oct 25, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Divorce & Support Payments – When Can You Use it to Qualify for a Mortgage?

One of the things I have learned over the years is that we cannot be a Jack-of-all-trades and a master-of-none. In today’s ever-changing world, we need to have connections with professionals in other disciplines and specialities. This is especially true with divorce professionals. I think it is important that practitioners have a network of specialists on which to draw. Today I am going to do just…See More
Oct 4, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Projecting Your 2018 Taxes

Have you thought about doing a tax projection for 2018?Obviously, this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. However, no one wants to be surprised around tax time. Here’s why you should get a head start on knowing the new tax law and how it will affect you and/or your business in the coming tax year.We are seven months into the New Year. You may not be aware that we have a new tax law that went into effect on December 22, 2017, or that most of the provisions took effect on January 1, 2018.Here are some…See More
Aug 23, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Mediators: The Swiss Army Knife of Divorce

Today I’m featuring an article by a colleague of mine named Martin Kranitz. Martin, a mediator in Maryland, has obtained certification from the Maryland Council for Dispute Resolution, one of the first organizations to provide mediator certification based on demonstrated performance rather than just education and mediation courses taken.  In this piece, Martin discusses one of the many functions a mediator can play,…See More
Jul 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

The Top 3 Reasons to Choose Mediation

As attitudes change about marriage and divorce, mediation has become an attractive alternative to traditional litigation. Still, some people are wary of it. The good news is that the facts support mediation, and in this post I provide a “cheat sheet” to help you persuade a reticent spouse into the process.Control: You and your spouse get to control the speed of the process. You both get to make…See More
Jun 5, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Things We Don’t Think About When Getting Divorced

Financial issues are a big part of the difficulty of divorce, in part because people don’t realize there are certain contracts that take precedence over divorce decrees. In fact, that’s the number one misconception that people seem to have. Being able to identify financial issues can help take away some of the pitfalls and stresses that can arise…See More
May 31, 2018

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