As a Transformational Relationship Therapist specializing in assisting divorced and divorcing women to heal from their divorce, people ask me lots of tough questions. The toughest question by far that I am asked is: "Should I stay or should I go?"
Wow! So much is behind that question! This is the topic of the June issue of my ezine, Creating Joy! This monthly ezine is FREE, and only goes to subscribers, so that it is welcome and valued by those who read it.
I would… Continue
Added by Debra Gordy MS MRET on June 4, 2008 at 6:11pm —
I read an article about a divorce custody fight in one of the major local papers down here in South Florida. Even for a reformed "killer" divorce lawyer turned divorce mediator such as myself, it made me sick to see what can happen when the divorce process spins out of control. This case truly epitomizes how to get a divorce if you want your kids to be the ones who really lose.
In this divorce case, each of the parties hired the highest-powered, gun-slinging divorce lawyers… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on June 2, 2008 at 5:00pm —
Our amazing and prolific member, Ed Sherman, Esq., founder of Nolo Press, has a free product that no divorce professional or person facing divorce should be without. It is called:
A Free Guide to a Peaceful Divorce,
Make Any Case Smoother, Less Painful, Less Expensive
Click on: http://peacefuldivorce.ning.com/profile/EdSherman
, to see a picture of the Guides, and click on that picture (it’s a link)… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 19, 2008 at 11:00am —
Authors invite Tricia Walsh-Smith to celebrate her divorce with
300 South Florida divorcees
Fort Lauderdale, FL: After watching Tricia Walsh-Smith on YouTube.com complaining about her impending divorce, authors Christina Rowe and Rosalind Sedacca, hosts of the Largest Divorce Party in the nation, decided to invite Ms.Walsh to their next Divorce Party on May 30th. Hundreds of divorced men and women from South Florida have been gathering at Christopher’s Night Club in… Continue
Added by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on May 13, 2008 at 1:29pm —
Our amazing member Susan Allan of TheDivorceForum.com, is at it again! On May 29th,she is providing a free event for those local to the Santa Monica area (if you aren't local, it will be available later on DVD) called:
Creating Inner and Outer Peace with Susan Allan, America’s leading Marriage and Divorce Coach, creator of The Heartspace System & Patricia Fitzgerald, Doctor of Holistic Medicine and Author of The Detox Solution.
Dr. Fitzgerald, a leading national expert… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 13, 2008 at 12:30pm —
I recently had a divorce mediation where, as often is the case, I was working with two divorce lawyers and two co-parents who couldn't stand each other. It literally took me hours to get them into the same room together and, although these parties had many written divorce settlement agreements between them, years later we were still there, fighting over interpretation and compliance.
In speaking with them alone (I sent the lawyers out of the room to do child support and other… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 12, 2008 at 10:00pm —
What would you like your relationship with your spouse or ex-spouse to look like? Have you ever thought about it? How can you get what you want, if you don't know what you want?
Most people spend their time thinking about what they don't want, rather than what they do want. You know that what you focus on expands.
How about sitting down and figuring out what your perfect relationship with them would look like? Whether you are going to stay married or get… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 7, 2008 at 9:00pm —
Why do such a large percentage of people find it difficult to accept the lack of animosity we feel toward each other? So many feel that we should not talk, not smile at each other, not share a meal.
For example, I (briefly) dated a woman here in Santa Barbara, whom I will call Mary. Mary has two grown children and has been separated from her husband for over a decade. Mary and I had dated twice when she saw my (soontobeEx) wife, myself and a friend at a local jazz club.
Added by Kevin Bourke on May 6, 2008 at 6:30pm —
Why not continue to honor her even though we are no longer compatible as marriage partners?
Why give her less honor than I would give any woman in any situation just because I happened to have been married to her?
In fact, to honor her less would be an insult to my own ability to select a marriage mate in the beginning. Perhaps she was the perfect choice for me at the time but is no longer.
I choose to honor her as a I would any person, and to honor her so as to… Continue
Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:46pm —
I find that objectively looking at what is best for the children causes me to set aside my pride and sense of entitlement and accept a situation that otherwise might cause me to retaliate in anger.
Remembering that the unkind things that my partner occasionally says are a byproduct of the stress she is feeling and not indicative of who I really am as a person, helps me take things in stride. Her opinion is skewed by her current emotional state, not necessarily by any legitimate… Continue
Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:30pm —
We all have experienced the pain of hearing that someone, perhaps even a close friend, has said something negative about our character, appearance, family, etc.
It also seems that often those comments have been taken out of context, exaggerated, or even completely fabricated. Nevertheless, it hurts to hear that others think poorly of us. And if indeed someone did deliberately defame us, that is especially painful.
Why say anything about our ex-partner that could be… Continue
Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 2:40pm —
Two powerful interviews around the subject of Peaceful Divorce have now been posted right here! Scroll down below the videos to the music player and you'll find these nuggets of gold!
Don’t miss the “Heartspace System” interview of Susan Allan by Belinda Rachman, Esq. and hear Susan's breakthrough system that has had powerful and positive results in both reconciling marriages, and in creating peaceful divorces!
Also just posted is Cynthia Tiano, Esq.’s radio interview on… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 2, 2008 at 5:30pm —
When you decide to start looking for a divorce attorney, do you think about going to a divorce lawyer who is "Board Certified"? One who has been certified by his/her peers as an "expert" who specializes in matrimonial law? Well, you may want to re-think that idea if you want a peaceful divorce.
Although it varies from state to state, the requirements for a divorce lawyer to become a board certified divorce attorney are often based upon how much time that lawyer spends in trial. Think… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 26, 2008 at 11:30pm —
Every now and then you will get a call from a client asking for a referral to a divorce attorney. Like all referral situations, a recommendation can have serious repercussions if the work isn't done properly or the parties don't like each other. You can win or lose big depending on the outcome. You want to steer your client in the right direction but just don't know who to trust with your most precious resources, your reputation and your clients.
The words that you are about to read… Continue
Added by Belinda Rachman, Esq. on March 20, 2008 at 9:29am —
For the life of me, I can’t figure out why anyone would litigate their divorce when they have the option to mediate. Is it even possible in this day and age that anyone considering getting a divorce, in the middle of a divorce, or already divorced and still fighting with their ex hasn’t heard about divorce mediation?
Ask anyone who has been to divorce court how they liked that experience. We know who the only winners are there – the divorce lawyers! But don’t blame them, if you hire… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on February 21, 2008 at 3:30pm —
The INTERNATIONAL ALLIANCE OF HOLISTIC LAWYERS are holding their annual meeting in the Detroit, MI area from May 15 - 18, 2008.
Visit www.iahl.org for details.
I attended my first conference 2 years ago and it was a life-altering experience for me.
Added by Fran Brochstein, J.D. on February 11, 2008 at 12:20am —
Added by Fran Brochstein, J.D. on February 2, 2008 at 10:16pm —
I am a single parent living in Brooklyn NY. I care for my son from Wed nights through Sat afternoon. My ex lives in our NJ house with our son the rest of the time. I am curious about finding other single parent communities / gatherings where single parents get together with their kids and talk, share experiences and activities etc.
Added by Daniel Fisher on January 31, 2008 at 4:37pm —
1. Appoint a Special Master (go to person) for disputed issues regarding the
Instead of running to court when issues come up in the future, build
into your divorce agreement a back door to avoid court. Is there a couple who
has already successfully raised their children, whose opinion you trust? They
would be the perfect Special Master to use when kid disputes arise in the
future. This is an honor most people would gladly accept. When issues come… Continue
Added by Belinda Rachman, Esq. on January 24, 2008 at 11:24am —
Not everyone has the same experience when using divorce mediation during their divorce process. Of course, part of the reason for that is that each person has a unique set of circumstances, and, personalities present in their divorce.
However, there are certain “rules” that apply across the board when it comes to how successful your mediation is going to be. These are:
· How committed you are to a peaceful resolution
· How committed your divorce attorney is to a… Continue
Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on January 22, 2008 at 10:30am —