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Cinderella Wisdom and Creating Financial Abundance Teleclasses in June

I am hostessing two teleclasses this month, and the first one is my GIFT in honor of "bride's month"! I would love to invite all readers and members of Peaceful Divorce to join me.

Teleclass 1: Cinderella Wisdom!

Date: June 12 , 2008

Time: 7:00 – 8: 30 pm MT

Cost: FREE, my gift to you in honor of

"Bride's Month".

Cinderella Wisdom Teleclass

Do you struggle with conflict or… Continue

Added by Debra Gordy MS MRET on June 4, 2008 at 6:30pm — No Comments

The Toughest Question Posed by Women Considering Divorce

As a Transformational Relationship Therapist specializing in assisting divorced and divorcing women to heal from their divorce, people ask me lots of tough questions. The toughest question by far that I am asked is: "Should I stay or should I go?"

Wow! So much is behind that question! This is the topic of the June issue of my ezine, Creating Joy! This monthly ezine is FREE, and only goes to subscribers, so that it is welcome and valued by those who read it.

I would… Continue

Added by Debra Gordy MS MRET on June 4, 2008 at 6:11pm — No Comments

How To Get A Divorce If You Want Your Kids To Lose

I read an article about a divorce custody fight in one of the major local papers down here in South Florida. Even for a reformed "killer" divorce lawyer turned divorce mediator such as myself, it made me sick to see what can happen when the divorce process spins out of control. This case truly epitomizes how to get a divorce if you want your kids to be the ones who really lose.

In this divorce case, each of the parties hired the highest-powered, gun-slinging divorce lawyers… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on June 2, 2008 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Nolo Press Founder Gives Away His Best!

Our amazing and prolific member, Ed Sherman, Esq., founder of Nolo Press, has a free product that no divorce professional or person facing divorce should be without. It is called:

A Free Guide to a Peaceful Divorce,

Make Any Case Smoother, Less Painful, Less Expensive

Click on:, to see a picture of the Guides, and click on that picture (it’s a link)… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 19, 2008 at 11:00am — No Comments

Rosalind Sedacca & Christina Rowe invite Youtube's outspoken "Divorce Lady" to the Largest Divorce Party in the U.S.

Authors invite Tricia Walsh-Smith to celebrate her divorce with

300 South Florida divorcees

Fort Lauderdale, FL: After watching Tricia Walsh-Smith on complaining about her impending divorce, authors Christina Rowe and Rosalind Sedacca, hosts of the Largest Divorce Party in the nation, decided to invite Ms.Walsh to their next Divorce Party on May 30th. Hundreds of divorced men and women from South Florida have been gathering at Christopher’s Night Club in… Continue

Added by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on May 13, 2008 at 1:29pm — 2 Comments

Creating Inner And Outer Peace With Susan Allan

Our amazing member Susan Allan of, is at it again! On May 29th,she is providing a free event for those local to the Santa Monica area (if you aren't local, it will be available later on DVD) called:

Creating Inner and Outer Peace with Susan Allan, America’s leading Marriage and Divorce Coach, creator of The Heartspace System & Patricia Fitzgerald, Doctor of Holistic Medicine and Author of The Detox Solution.

Dr. Fitzgerald, a leading national expert… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 13, 2008 at 12:30pm — 1 Comment

Divorce Settlement: Inspire The Desire

I recently had a divorce mediation where, as often is the case, I was working with two divorce lawyers and two co-parents who couldn't stand each other. It literally took me hours to get them into the same room together and, although these parties had many written divorce settlement agreements between them, years later we were still there, fighting over interpretation and compliance.

In speaking with them alone (I sent the lawyers out of the room to do child support and other… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 12, 2008 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Holding The Vision

What would you like your relationship with your spouse or ex-spouse to look like? Have you ever thought about it? How can you get what you want, if you don't know what you want?

Most people spend their time thinking about what they don't want, rather than what they do want. You know that what you focus on expands.

How about sitting down and figuring out what your perfect relationship with them would look like? Whether you are going to stay married or get…

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 7, 2008 at 9:00pm — No Comments

Peer Pressure

Why do such a large percentage of people find it difficult to accept the lack of animosity we feel toward each other? So many feel that we should not talk, not smile at each other, not share a meal.

For example, I (briefly) dated a woman here in Santa Barbara, whom I will call Mary. Mary has two grown children and has been separated from her husband for over a decade. Mary and I had dated twice when she saw my (soontobeEx) wife, myself and a friend at a local jazz club.

I,… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 6, 2008 at 6:30pm — 1 Comment

Honor Your Ex

Why not continue to honor her even though we are no longer compatible as marriage partners?

Why give her less honor than I would give any woman in any situation just because I happened to have been married to her?

In fact, to honor her less would be an insult to my own ability to select a marriage mate in the beginning. Perhaps she was the perfect choice for me at the time but is no longer.

I choose to honor her as a I would any person, and to honor her so as to… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:46pm — 1 Comment

Let It Slide

I find that objectively looking at what is best for the children causes me to set aside my pride and sense of entitlement and accept a situation that otherwise might cause me to retaliate in anger.

Remembering that the unkind things that my partner occasionally says are a byproduct of the stress she is feeling and not indicative of who I really am as a person, helps me take things in stride. Her opinion is skewed by her current emotional state, not necessarily by any legitimate… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:30pm — 1 Comment

Don't Bad Mouth Your Ex or SoonToBe Ex

We all have experienced the pain of hearing that someone, perhaps even a close friend, has said something negative about our character, appearance, family, etc.

It also seems that often those comments have been taken out of context, exaggerated, or even completely fabricated. Nevertheless, it hurts to hear that others think poorly of us. And if indeed someone did deliberately defame us, that is especially painful.

Why say anything about our ex-partner that could be… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 2:40pm — 1 Comment

Powerful Peaceful Divorce Players Interviewed!

Two powerful interviews around the subject of Peaceful Divorce have now been posted right here! Scroll down below the videos to the music player and you'll find these nuggets of gold!

Don’t miss the “Heartspace System” interview of Susan Allan by Belinda Rachman, Esq. and hear Susan's breakthrough system that has had powerful and positive results in both reconciling marriages, and in creating peaceful divorces!

Also just posted is Cynthia Tiano, Esq.’s radio interview on… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 2, 2008 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Board Certified Divorce Lawyers and Peaceful Divorce?

When you decide to start looking for a divorce attorney, do you think about going to a divorce lawyer who is "Board Certified"? One who has been certified by his/her peers as an "expert" who specializes in matrimonial law? Well, you may want to re-think that idea if you want a peaceful divorce.

Although it varies from state to state, the requirements for a divorce lawyer to become a board certified divorce attorney are often based upon how much time that lawyer spends in trial. Think… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 26, 2008 at 11:30pm — 2 Comments

What to advise clients who are thinking of divorce

Every now and then you will get a call from a client asking for a referral to a divorce attorney. Like all referral situations, a recommendation can have serious repercussions if the work isn't done properly or the parties don't like each other. You can win or lose big depending on the outcome. You want to steer your client in the right direction but just don't know who to trust with your most precious resources, your reputation and your clients.

The words that you are about to read… Continue

Added by Belinda Rachman, Esq. on March 20, 2008 at 9:29am — No Comments

Mediate, Don’t Litigate!

For the life of me, I can’t figure out why anyone would litigate their divorce when they have the option to mediate. Is it even possible in this day and age that anyone considering getting a divorce, in the middle of a divorce, or already divorced and still fighting with their ex hasn’t heard about divorce mediation?

Ask anyone who has been to divorce court how they liked that experience. We know who the only winners are there – the divorce lawyers! But don’t blame them, if you hire… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on February 21, 2008 at 3:30pm — 1 Comment

May 15 - 18, 2008 - Annual IAHL Conference in Detroit, MI

The INTERNATIONAL ALLIANCE OF HOLISTIC LAWYERS are holding their annual meeting in the Detroit, MI area from May 15 - 18, 2008.

Visit for details.

I attended my first conference 2 years ago and it was a life-altering experience for me.

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Added by Fran Brochstein, J.D. on February 2, 2008 at 10:16pm — No Comments

Single Parents in the NYC area

I am a single parent living in Brooklyn NY. I care for my son from Wed nights through Sat afternoon. My ex lives in our NJ house with our son the rest of the time. I am curious about finding other single parent communities / gatherings where single parents get together with their kids and talk, share experiences and activities etc.

Added by Daniel Fisher on January 31, 2008 at 4:37pm — No Comments

9 Top Tips To Avoid Court!

1. Appoint a Special Master (go to person) for disputed issues regarding the


Instead of running to court when issues come up in the future, build into your divorce agreement a back door to avoid court. Is there a couple who

has already successfully raised their children, whose opinion you trust? They

would be the perfect Special Master to use when kid disputes arise in the

future. This is an honor most people would gladly accept. When issues come… Continue

Added by Belinda Rachman, Esq. on January 24, 2008 at 11:24am — 1 Comment

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Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

What About the House?

Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More
Apr 24
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Child Support for Special Needs Children

We know that the divorce rate among all couples is about 50%, but there is no question that divorce rates are even higher among parents of children with special needs.Below is an article that was written by Dr. Howard Drutman and Marsha Schechtman, LCSW. In this article, they talk about the considerations that must be understood about the special needs child. In addition to their information, we also have to think…See More
Mar 28
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Email From the IRS? Don't Believe It

Scam artists have developed a new tactic in cheating taxpayers out of their hard-earned money.Transcript fraud is when taxpayers are lured into opening an attachment that is supposed to be their tax transcript. In fact, the attachment contains malware that will intercept all of your outgoing data, with the intent of capturing account numbers. From there, the thieves withdraw the money and the taxpayer is left without…See More
Feb 21
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

2018 Taxes & Divorce: There Is Still Time

If you are getting divorced or just got divorced the last thing on your mind is taxes. It is important to remember that if you got divorced anytime in 2018 (even Dec. 31, 2018), you will be considered divorced for the whole year of 2018. What does that mean for taxes?It could mean a higher tax bill than you thought.  If you are receiving alimony this year it will be taxable to you.  If you are…See More
Dec 28, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Tax Tips for the Recently Divorced

We are only 4 weeks away from the end of the year. What does that mean for people who have gotten divorced in 2018?It means you have to get ready to file your tax returns for the year ending 2018 by April 15, 2019, or else extend it. Remember, just because you extend it, you still have to pay any tax that you owe by April 15, 2019.If you got divorced in 2017, here are some items you need to think about for tax…See More
Dec 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Elegant Solution: The Child Support Account

Today I’m pleased to bring you a special guest blog written by my colleague Steve Erickson. In his 35 years of experience, Steve has come up with a novel approach to child support that shifts couples away from being adversarial and toward collaboration. This method is called the Child Support Account, and it was originally proposed…See More
Nov 15, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Withholding: A Down Payment, not a Tax

In my experience, many people do not know the difference between the withholding amount (the taxes deducted on your pay stub) and their tax liability. All they know is that they don’t have the money. They think they’re square with the government, and are surprised if they owe any amount on top of what was withheld. That’s why I thought it would be useful to review the…See More
Oct 25, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Divorce & Support Payments – When Can You Use it to Qualify for a Mortgage?

One of the things I have learned over the years is that we cannot be a Jack-of-all-trades and a master-of-none. In today’s ever-changing world, we need to have connections with professionals in other disciplines and specialities. This is especially true with divorce professionals. I think it is important that practitioners have a network of specialists on which to draw. Today I am going to do just…See More
Oct 4, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Projecting Your 2018 Taxes

Have you thought about doing a tax projection for 2018?Obviously, this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. However, no one wants to be surprised around tax time. Here’s why you should get a head start on knowing the new tax law and how it will affect you and/or your business in the coming tax year.We are seven months into the New Year. You may not be aware that we have a new tax law that went into effect on December 22, 2017, or that most of the provisions took effect on January 1, 2018.Here are some…See More
Aug 23, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Mediators: The Swiss Army Knife of Divorce

Today I’m featuring an article by a colleague of mine named Martin Kranitz. Martin, a mediator in Maryland, has obtained certification from the Maryland Council for Dispute Resolution, one of the first organizations to provide mediator certification based on demonstrated performance rather than just education and mediation courses taken.  In this piece, Martin discusses one of the many functions a mediator can play,…See More
Jul 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

The Top 3 Reasons to Choose Mediation

As attitudes change about marriage and divorce, mediation has become an attractive alternative to traditional litigation. Still, some people are wary of it. The good news is that the facts support mediation, and in this post I provide a “cheat sheet” to help you persuade a reticent spouse into the process.Control: You and your spouse get to control the speed of the process. You both get to make…See More
Jun 5, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Things We Don’t Think About When Getting Divorced

Financial issues are a big part of the difficulty of divorce, in part because people don’t realize there are certain contracts that take precedence over divorce decrees. In fact, that’s the number one misconception that people seem to have. Being able to identify financial issues can help take away some of the pitfalls and stresses that can arise…See More
May 31, 2018




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