Peaceful Divorce

September 2008 Blog Posts (7)

Peaceful Divorce and Happy Holidays

Tonight at sundown begins the Jewish New Year 5769. For some reason, this year this time of reflection has brought me back to the beginning of the year 5757. That year was significant to me back then – probably because my birth year is 1957, so the double “57s” were cool. It was 12 years ago – 1996. Where was I then compared to where I am now?

More specifically, I’ve been thinking about how and where my (then-divorcing) family was then and looking at what’s happening… Continue

Added by Cindy Harari on September 29, 2008 at 4:48pm — 1 Comment

5 Things Divorcing Parents Should Know

Check out this great article from our member Belinda Rachman, Esq. and please share it with anyone you think it might help!

When you had your child or children your life changed from being focused on yourself to suddenly having to consider how all your life choices would impact the kids. That is the way it should be. What is in the child's best interest should always be a parent's top priority especially when considering divorce.

The first thing you should know is our…


Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 24, 2008 at 7:30am — No Comments

People really don't know....

So many potential mediation clients express amazement when I tell them that they don't have to get attorneys to get divorced. It seems like people really don't know that they can do mediation, avoid the battle completely, and start moving on with their lives. Somehow, we just aren't getting the word out about this. The public perception is that you have to get attorneys even if you don't want to fight, and even if you have nothing to fight over. People just aren't aware of the possibility of… Continue

Added by Kenneth Friedman on September 23, 2008 at 6:31pm — 2 Comments

Is Your Divorce Lawyer on Board With A Peaceful Divorce?

I know that divorce lawyers have a pretty bad reputation when it comes to fueling the fires between divorcing couples. Most people believe that they only want to fight, especially since they make more money the longer the fight goes on.

I’m here to tell you as a divorce mediator that this has not really been my experience. Sure, some divorce attorneys prolong the fight, but there really are lots of them out there that do care, and want to help you navigate the…

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 23, 2008 at 10:57am — 1 Comment

Divorce Doesn't Scar Children - Uneducated Parents Do!

Here is a great article by our own Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, founder of that would benefit everyone to read, and to pass on:

Divorce is a highly emotional topic. When children are involved the consequences are far more dramatic - and, not surprisingly, so are our opinions. I know there are many people who sincerely believe that no divorce is a good divorce. That children are always and inevitably harmed by the physical and emotional separation of their…


Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 19, 2008 at 6:30pm — No Comments

Peaceful Divorce Founder will be Interviewed Thursday!

Lisa Fredette, host of the Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce radio show, which airs live every Thursday at 1:00 pm Pacific/4:00 pm Eastern will be interviewing me this Thursday. The topic is How To Create a Peaceful Divorce. Here are the details from Lisa:

Are you or someone you care about facing divorce? Do you want to avoid the inevitable tug of war with your spouse? Do you dread making that call to find an attorney because you just don't want to fight any longer?… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 9, 2008 at 1:30pm — No Comments

How do you want your children to feel about you?

Here is a great article written by member Laura Campbell, Divorce Coach. I know you will get as much out of it as I did!


I recently had the opportunity to drive home from a weekend away with my two children and spend five hours alone in the car with them. At ages 11 and 14, sometimes our time in the car where no one can walk away, ignore or otherwise avoid conversations, is a wonderful opportunity to really gain valuable insight as to how they are feeling.

I have… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on September 1, 2008 at 6:30pm — 1 Comment

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