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August 2011 Blog Posts (5)

Defining Family by Randy A. Royse

A article By Randy A. Royse


I recently read My Mother Got Married (and other disasters).  The author, Barbara Park, tells the story from the point of view of eleven-year-old Charlie Hickle.  Charlie’s parents are recently divorced and he is beginning to adjust.  Then slam!  His mother backs her car into a landscaper’s truck, and a few…


Added by on August 29, 2011 at 8:55am — No Comments

Use Of Mental Health Professional In Divorce

Use of Mental Health Professionals in Divorce Cases…


Added by Mary G. Commander on August 20, 2011 at 7:31pm — No Comments

Choosing Sides

Today I had the experience of spending some time in the waiting area at the Newport News Juvenile & Domestic Relations District Court. It did show some examples of humanity at its worst.

First of all, a court is no place for children. Yet the waiting area was filled with kids. They were there to see their parents fight over them. Both in and out of the courtroom.

There also were the grandparents who were in charge of taking care of their grandchildren, as well as their own… Continue

Added by Mary G. Commander on August 20, 2011 at 7:07pm — No Comments

Too Much Fact Or Fiction

Some parents feel the need to include their children in all of the family discussions and traumas. Their position is that all that happens has an impact on the child so the child should be aware of everything-in detail.

Other parents take the directly opposite approach that children should be shielded from everything that could possibly upset them and told that there is nothing wrong in their world. They should be kept completely in the dark until one day one of their parents is no…


Added by Mary G. Commander on August 20, 2011 at 7:04pm — No Comments

How Do You Stay Sane?

I was talking with a psychiatrist this week (we won't go too deeply into the reason why). I was just casually discussing a call that I had with another lawyer about a case just before our meeting. It was a fairly routine case with clients engaging in what would be totally socially unacceptable behavior in the real world, but behavior that is not unusual in divorce cases. The case involvolved threats of physical violence, infidelity, tug of war over the children and the usual he said/she…


Added by Mary G. Commander on August 20, 2011 at 7:01pm — No Comments

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