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The Advantages of Mediation

Mediation begins when couples make the decision to divorce, then choose a mediator. Mediation has several advantages, including the fact that divorcing couples remain in control of their own fate, giving them the power to make important decisions concerning their children and their property. Mediation is also:

  • A controlled discussion intended…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 17, 2016 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Are You a Teacher Getting Divorced in Georgia?

In Georgia, teachers’ retirement benefits through the TRS (Teachers Retirement System) are not divisible by law. Divorce decrees have no impact on your TRS account, and the TRS is not subject to Qualified Domestic Relation Orders, or QDROs. TRS funds are also exempt from levy, garnishment, or catchment, and a member of…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 3, 2016 at 4:20pm — No Comments

Children Becoming the Parents of Their Parents

When we were young we thought our parents were indestructible. They played with us in the yard and on the floor. They climbed ladders and would clean out the gutters every fall. As we grew older, we became more indestructible and watched as our parents became more cautious and careful. Then we started having our families and children…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on July 12, 2016 at 4:14pm — No Comments

Checklist of What to Do After the Divorce

Divorce is a difficult experience to go through. Besides the emotional toll, there are lots of little details you have to remember to take care of. Some of those details include

•Completing any title transfer assets (preferably before the divorce is finalized):

•Automobiles;

•Stock or equity rights in a…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on June 22, 2016 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Does Your State Have Collaborative Law Legislation?

Divorce professionals are keenly aware that each state passes and enforces its own set of laws. What is less known is the existence of the Uniform Law Commission (ULC)—and how it is leading the way for a consistent application of collaborative law throughout the country.

The ULC works by identifying which…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on June 9, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

Divorce: The Art of Screwing up Your Children—Book Review by Melody Richardson

Thank you to Melody Richardson of Richardson, Bloom and Lines, LLC of Atlanta, for our first book review. The book being discussed is Dr. Howard Drutman’s book “Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children.” 

Dr. Drutman’s sardonic new book, “Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children”, is a “how-to” book for parents who have become so embroiled in the battle with their children’s other parent that they have become blind to how that battle is screwing up…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 31, 2016 at 5:16pm — No Comments

Important Notes on the Protecting Americans from Tax Hikes Act of 2015

On December 18, 2015, the Protecting Americans from Tax Hikes Act of 2015 was enacted. It extended permanently more than 20 key tax provisions. As well, some of the tax provisions that expired at the end of 2014 were extended for five…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 28, 2016 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Filing an Extension with the IRS

Taxes are one of those unavoidable things that we have to deal with every year. The deadline stays relatively the same, but many of us nonetheless find ourselves scrambling to gather our…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 14, 2016 at 3:30pm — No Comments

4 Issues You Need to Be Aware of When Filing Your Taxes After Divorce

When couples get divorced, they can be respectful and cooperate with each other, but that does not mean the IRS will make it easy for them.…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

Start the Year on the Right Financial Foot – Create a Budget!

If you got divorced in 2015 or are preparing to divorce in 2016, a budget can become a road map for your…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 27, 2016 at 2:00pm — No Comments

The holidays are over and so is your marriage – now what?

It has long been known that the first Monday of January is considered “Divorce Day.” The Christmas tree comes down, and so does the hammer, although the seed is often planted by one of the spouses before the holidays. According to some estimates, divorce inquiries rise by 300% during the month of January.

Research on 500 divorcees commissioned by…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 14, 2016 at 4:00pm — No Comments

5 New Tax Laws for 2016

5 New Tax Laws for 2016 by Robert D. Bordett

A new year is upon us, bringing with it changes to our tax laws. In order to avoid any trouble with the IRS, plan ahead for these changes.



Penalty for the uninsured:…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 4, 2016 at 12:25pm — No Comments

5 Things You Need To Know About Your Taxes And Divorce

If you divorce in 2015, there are a few important things to be aware of in order to avoid potential hassles. Use this quick cheat sheet well in advance of the filing deadline:

  1. Know your filing status. If you divorced anytime before and up to December 31, 2015, you are considered divorced for the entire year. There is no “part-time married filing…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 28, 2015 at 11:21am — No Comments

3 Important Tax Considerations For People Who Divorced In 2015

If you have been divorced at any time in 2015, there are specific pieces of information you need to be aware of before tax time arrives:



  1. Who claims the children? Prior to 2009, you could specify in a divorce decree which parent claimed the dependency exemption; since…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 8, 2015 at 3:05pm — No Comments

The APFM Conference 2015: What a difference a year makes!

I have attended a lot of conferences in my career, and typically the content is standard mediation-related information. The most recent conference however, hosted by the Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) in Virginia, entitled Selling Peace in an Adversarial World, was…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 12, 2015 at 10:30am — No Comments

Some Highlights from the 2015 ADFP and Center for Mediation and Training Conference in New York City

It’s conference and continuing education time again. This year the Association of Divorce Financial Planners (ADFP) had a joint conference with Center for Mediation & Training, which is located in New York City. The Keynote speaker was Jean Chatzky, a personal finance expert, best-selling author, and the financial editor for NBC’s Today Show. There were several other main speakers, including…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 3, 2015 at 8:00pm — No Comments

Essential Social Security Information That Divorcing Couples Should Be Aware Of

One of the sessions I attended at the Association of Divorce Financial Professionals (ADFP) conference this year was “Everything You Didn’t Know About Social Security” presented by Jacqueline Roessler, CDFA and Melissa Joy, CFP. Their presentation covered the basics of Social Security, including:

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 8, 2015 at 12:00pm — No Comments

How Does Mediation Work?

How Does Mediation Work by Robert D. Bordett {2 minutes to read} In my previous article, I explained the collaborative process. Today, we learn about mediation.

Mediation is voluntary, private, flexible, and…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 2, 2015 at 1:30pm — No Comments

What Is Collaborative Divorce?

What Is Collaborative Divorce? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA {Read in 3:10 minutes} Over the next several blog articles, I thought I would write about the different models of Alternative Dispute Resolution models for divorcing families.

The collaborative process -- also called collaborative law or collaborative divorce -- is voluntary, private, confidential, and…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 15, 2015 at 5:15pm — No Comments

Getting Back to the Grass Roots of Collaborative Divorce

Getting Back to the Grass Roots of Collaborative Divorce by Robert D. Bordett

How do we really know when a couple is suited for the collaborative process or mediation?

I recently explored this topic at a Practice Organizational Development Group meeting for collaborative divorce professionals.

Much of the discussion focused on how to screen potential clients because Alternative Dispute…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 4, 2015 at 2:48pm — No Comments

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Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

What Is a Caucus?

One of the guiding values in mediation and collaborative law is transparency. It comes with the territory when one is trying to establish trust with two different parties. Sometimes an issue may arise that one party may wish not to discuss in front of the other. If they both agree, separate meetings may take place. These meetings are called caucuses.Caucuses can be…See More
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How Important Is the Budget in Divorce Planning?

I think everyone’s least favorite word is BUDGET. Why don’t we want to hear that word? Think about it: We’re asking ourselves to do something we don’t want to do — or worse yet, someone else is asking us to do it. While we might not like them, having a budget does help. In divorce planning — whether you are going to litigation,…See More
Sep 18
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21st Century Parenting Plans

I remember when the default custody arrangement had one parent as the custodial parent, and the other parent was known as the “Disneyland parent.” They had their children every other weekend, and maybe once during the week for dinner. Today it is more common to see joint parenting time consist of one week on, and one week off or “two-two-five-five” time,…See More
Aug 15
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Including a Financial Professional in Your Mediation

Very often, couples who are divorcing amicably, or who have straightforward financial situations, will forgo meeting with a financial professional while they go through mediation. Though this may seem logical on its face, “going it alone” may result in unnecessary hardship and inaccurate calculations.  It is easy to simply look at a tax table today and say “I am going…See More
Jul 30
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

What About the House?

Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More
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