February 2011 Blog Posts (6)

Despite the Divorce, Take Charge of Yourself

Take a look at the diagram below:

The image above depicts something you see frequently in divorce—individuals whose personal selves are crowded out by that which surrounds them. I am quite certain that anyone going through a divorce can relate to not having enough time for herself. It also makes sense, there are so many competing demands and very often, just one parent instead of two. But this type of life just cannot hold up – you have to take charge of your…

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Added by Mark Banschick MD on February 23, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments

Taking Control of Yourself

Take a look at the diagram above. Unless your ex-husband or wife disappears and is no longer involved, you, your ex, and your kids are in a dynamic relationship with each other, and will be for years to come. What he does affects you directly and indirectly through the children.

And you are the one person in this system over which you have the most control.

DID YOU KNOW?

Wisdom is not a 21st Century commodity—it’s been…

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Added by Mark Banschick MD on February 16, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments

Local Event in Westchester, NY: Transforming Illness Into A Self Healing Journey

The Katonah Study Group For Integrative Medicine

www.TheKatonahStudyGroup.org/

Presents: Paul Epstein, ND

February 16, 2011

Katonah Library

7:00pm

$15 (unless you are a member)

Please bring your favorite dish - drinks will be provided

Transforming Illness Into A Self Healing Journey: How Biography Becomes Biology

Disease tells a…

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Added by Mark Banschick MD on February 14, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments

Marriage and Money

New York Times columnist, Nicholas Kristof, tells us something interesting in his November 6th article, entitled Our Banana Republic. Apparently, new research points to increasing divorces occurring due to the stress of poor economic times. This should surprise no one, but it should alarm us all.

Love makes marriage work, but stress — like a wayward child, mental illness, or the loss of a job — can undermine the glue that holds a couple together. There are a number of… Continue

Added by Mark Banschick MD on February 9, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments

San Diego Divorce – San Diego Divorce and Family Law Lawyers

When questions come up about divorce or family law, it is important to get advice from someone who knows local and state laws. A San Diego divorce will be different from a divorce in other places. Finding a lawyer that is familiar with not only local law, but knowledge of the…

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Added by Marie Backes on February 4, 2011 at 5:07am — No Comments

Relationship Status and the Social Network

With over 500 million users, Facebook is the most widely used social networking site in the world. It’s also incredibly easy to use. But that ease comes with a price. It may take just one click to change your relationship status from “married” to “single”, but that does nothing to protect you from the inevitable fallout of “Joe Schmo is now listed as single” from appearing on each and every one of your friends’ news feeds. This easy-to-use site has now made your life very… Continue

Added by Mark Banschick MD on February 2, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments

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What About the House?

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