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New clients often have questions regarding mediation. I’ve put together a list of questions and answers to help shed some light on the ins and outs of mediation. Q: Why would I mediate instead of cho…

New clients often have questions regarding mediation. I’ve put together a list of questions and answers to help shed some light on the ins and outs of mediation.

Q: Why would I mediate instead of choosing typical litigation?

A: There are several reasons why mediation is better than litigation:

  • It can be faster and less expensive
  • It's much more private
  • It tends to create less emotional turbulence for the couple
  • Court…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 29, 2015 at 11:55am — No Comments

If You Divorced in 2014, Read This Before Filing Your Taxes!

{2:45 minutes to read} If you were divorced in 2014 and are preparing to file your taxes, you need to be aware of which filing status to use. The filing status should be Single or Head of Household if you are divorced.  Can both parties claim Head of Household? You can if each party meets the qualifications.



You also need to think…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 10, 2015 at 9:00am — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

Have You Heard of Second Saturday? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's Institute for Financial Education. This…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:12pm — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

Have You Heard of Second Saturday? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's Institute for Financial Education. This…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:12pm — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:00pm — No Comments

How Do You Divide Retirement Funds After a Divorce?

{2:30 to read} In virtually every divorce, assets are divided. However, dividing a teacher’s or other government employee’s retirement account is not possible in every state - as is the case with Georgia.

First some background: The division of retirement plans is governed by something called a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, or…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on March 19, 2015 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Knowing When to Ask for Help

Knowing When to Ask for Help by Robert D. Bordett In my practice, I call upon my professional network often.

Mediators like myself - who are trained in the financial piece of divorce - often reach out to other professionals when it comes to helping with the emotional side of divorce. This is the essence of team mediation; forming a team of professionals whose skills and training complement each other.

I've been…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 26, 2015 at 8:30pm — No Comments

Which Method Offers More Flexibility: ADR or Old-Fashioned Divorce?

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The differences between litigating a divorce and trying Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), like mediation and collaborative law, are numerous - but perhaps the most important area where these differences come into play is property.

Everything is fair game. You don't get to hide anything.…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 12, 2015 at 5:16pm — No Comments

How Can Hopes and Goals Help in Your Divorce?

If divorce becomes a reality for you in 2015, consider mediation. There are many different mediation models to choose from with new models coming to light in recent years, such as:

  • Team mediation
  • Family collaborative mediation
  • Integrated mediation



The three models mentioned above use similar tools…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 1, 2015 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Things to Consider When Completing the FAFSA

With the new year approaching, some parents are thinking about sending their son or daughter off to college. If you are one of those parents, you may be wondering how to complete the Free Application For Federal Student Aid (FAFSA), a gateway to all federal student aid. Whether you are married or divorced, consider the following questions before completing the FAFSA:

  • What is the definition of Expected Family Contribution (EFC)?
  • What is the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 1, 2015 at 12:41pm — No Comments

Filing Your Taxes after Divorce

Many couples divorce using mediation or collaborative divorce are able to dissolve the marriage in a cooperative and respectful way that takes every member of the family into consideration.

But there is another player: What you have to remember is that there is no touchy-feeliness about divorce in the eyes of the Internal Revenue Service. Filing your tax return after your divorce the first year could be tricky and more complicated than you think.

Items to think…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 16, 2014 at 3:34pm — No Comments

Fall Is for Continuing Education

October is the time of year for all sorts of professional conferences. Recently, I spent six days in San Diego where I attended 2 gatherings geared toward divorce professionals.

The first conference was organized by The Association of Divorce Financial Planners. This three-day conference was packed with intense coursework covering various financial issues that are likely to be…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 5, 2014 at 6:41pm — No Comments

Have You Started Preparing for Your Taxes Yet? Don't Get Surprised by an Unexpected Tax Bill - Do a Projection!

Autumn is upon us, and there is no better time for divorcing spouses to start thinking about tax preparation for the year 2014.

Even though we're 7 months away from having to file our taxes, once the clock strikes midnight on December 31, there's not much you can do. What if you didn't withhold enough? Wouldn't you like…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 17, 2014 at 1:48pm — No Comments

Affordable Care Act Updated Statistics

In December of 2013, I wrote an article about the Affordable Care Act and how it could help in divorce situations. The information available at the time did not specifically mention divorce, but it was nonetheless helpful for me in several instances.

A detailed set of new data was released by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) in…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 8, 2014 at 5:00pm — No Comments

7 Things to Consider in Your Divorce

In a divorce, both parties have many decisions to make. Whether it’s through mediation or a collaborative approach to divorce, these items are important to keep in mind:

1. Asset and liability division

  • How will assets be divided?
  • How much is your home worth?
  • Will you continue to co-own the home and sell it in the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 22, 2014 at 4:12pm — No Comments

I Don't Want to Hear about the Process

As divorce professionals working in mediation and in collaborative divorce, we tend to talk a lot about the process, explaining to clients how the process works and what they can expect - sometimes verbally, and other times with the help of graphics or a combination of the two. We also tend to explain to the client that they make decisions, but we own the…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 11, 2014 at 3:00pm — No Comments

Managing Expectations in Divorce

When people come in for divorce, they often have their own ideas about what it is, how it will play out, and what the financial settlement will be. That is why it is so important to set realistic expectations for both parties. Whether it be a mediated or litigated divorce, here are some tips on how you can avoid serious disappointment - simply by managing your…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 26, 2014 at 6:13pm — No Comments

7 Tips for Making Divorce Easier

Mediation, collaborative law and litigation have some significant differences, but they can all be improved with some relatively simple attitude adjustment. If you can get past the all-too-natural desire for petty reprisals and revenge, then you are already on the right track. Here are some tips to keep…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 11, 2014 at 12:00am — No Comments

7 Things To Think About Before Mediation

Going into mediation can be a stressful experience. Many times there are lingering feelings that can cloud your judgement. Hurt feelings and unresolved anger can lead to misunderstandings. If you are headed into mediation, remembering these 7 things could help ease the…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on July 22, 2014 at 9:00pm — No Comments

TEAMwork

Sometimes divorce turns into a war, often because one or both spouses want to settle a score and be “right.”

In litigation, each party is trying to prove a point and get what they think they deserve, whereas mediation focuses less on finger-pointing and more on helping each spouse achieve his or her goals. In order to avoid fighting, and save family assets, there…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on July 9, 2014 at 7:30pm — No Comments

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Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

What About the House?

Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More
Apr 24
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Child Support for Special Needs Children

We know that the divorce rate among all couples is about 50%, but there is no question that divorce rates are even higher among parents of children with special needs.Below is an article that was written by Dr. Howard Drutman and Marsha Schechtman, LCSW. In this article, they talk about the considerations that must be understood about the special needs child. In addition to their information, we also have to think…See More
Mar 28
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Email From the IRS? Don't Believe It

Scam artists have developed a new tactic in cheating taxpayers out of their hard-earned money.Transcript fraud is when taxpayers are lured into opening an attachment that is supposed to be their tax transcript. In fact, the attachment contains malware that will intercept all of your outgoing data, with the intent of capturing account numbers. From there, the thieves withdraw the money and the taxpayer is left without…See More
Feb 21
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

2018 Taxes & Divorce: There Is Still Time

If you are getting divorced or just got divorced the last thing on your mind is taxes. It is important to remember that if you got divorced anytime in 2018 (even Dec. 31, 2018), you will be considered divorced for the whole year of 2018. What does that mean for taxes?It could mean a higher tax bill than you thought.  If you are receiving alimony this year it will be taxable to you.  If you are…See More
Dec 28, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Tax Tips for the Recently Divorced

We are only 4 weeks away from the end of the year. What does that mean for people who have gotten divorced in 2018?It means you have to get ready to file your tax returns for the year ending 2018 by April 15, 2019, or else extend it. Remember, just because you extend it, you still have to pay any tax that you owe by April 15, 2019.If you got divorced in 2017, here are some items you need to think about for tax…See More
Dec 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

An Elegant Solution: The Child Support Account

Today I’m pleased to bring you a special guest blog written by my colleague Steve Erickson. In his 35 years of experience, Steve has come up with a novel approach to child support that shifts couples away from being adversarial and toward collaboration. This method is called the Child Support Account, and it was originally proposed…See More
Nov 15, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Withholding: A Down Payment, not a Tax

In my experience, many people do not know the difference between the withholding amount (the taxes deducted on your pay stub) and their tax liability. All they know is that they don’t have the money. They think they’re square with the government, and are surprised if they owe any amount on top of what was withheld. That’s why I thought it would be useful to review the…See More
Oct 25, 2018
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Divorce & Support Payments – When Can You Use it to Qualify for a Mortgage?

One of the things I have learned over the years is that we cannot be a Jack-of-all-trades and a master-of-none. In today’s ever-changing world, we need to have connections with professionals in other disciplines and specialities. This is especially true with divorce professionals. I think it is important that practitioners have a network of specialists on which to draw. Today I am going to do just…See More
Oct 4, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Projecting Your 2018 Taxes

Have you thought about doing a tax projection for 2018?Obviously, this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. However, no one wants to be surprised around tax time. Here’s why you should get a head start on knowing the new tax law and how it will affect you and/or your business in the coming tax year.We are seven months into the New Year. You may not be aware that we have a new tax law that went into effect on December 22, 2017, or that most of the provisions took effect on January 1, 2018.Here are some…See More
Aug 23, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Mediators: The Swiss Army Knife of Divorce

Today I’m featuring an article by a colleague of mine named Martin Kranitz. Martin, a mediator in Maryland, has obtained certification from the Maryland Council for Dispute Resolution, one of the first organizations to provide mediator certification based on demonstrated performance rather than just education and mediation courses taken.  In this piece, Martin discusses one of the many functions a mediator can play,…See More
Jul 12, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

The Top 3 Reasons to Choose Mediation

As attitudes change about marriage and divorce, mediation has become an attractive alternative to traditional litigation. Still, some people are wary of it. The good news is that the facts support mediation, and in this post I provide a “cheat sheet” to help you persuade a reticent spouse into the process.Control: You and your spouse get to control the speed of the process. You both get to make…See More
Jun 5, 2018
Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA posted a blog post

Things We Don’t Think About When Getting Divorced

Financial issues are a big part of the difficulty of divorce, in part because people don’t realize there are certain contracts that take precedence over divorce decrees. In fact, that’s the number one misconception that people seem to have. Being able to identify financial issues can help take away some of the pitfalls and stresses that can arise…See More
May 31, 2018

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