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When Is It Time to Involve outside Experts in Divorce Mediation?

When Is It Time to Involve outside Experts in Divorce Mediation By Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA {Read in 2.3 minutes}

Having relationships with outside experts can be helpful during mediation. Many times these experts are professionals the clients know and possibly work with.

I currently have a mediation case with a husband and wife involved with three LLC companies, all owned by an S corp. The husband owns the majority of the stock, and from the start, wanted…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on June 28, 2015 at 12:53pm — No Comments

Do I LISTEN, or Do I TALK?

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If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got.

- Mark Twain

Mediators can help couples going through divorce by:

  • Establishing ground rules. We can slow down the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 30, 2015 at 2:30pm — No Comments

The Ins and Outs of Mediation Part 2

Mediation Q & A, Part Two By Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA Last week, we answered some questions regarding the mediation process. This week we continue with more questions and answers.

Q: What do I need to bring to the first mediation session?

A: The first session is when both parties learn how the mediation process works. All the facts are brought to the table, and a list of items needed in future…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on May 14, 2015 at 2:21pm — No Comments

New clients often have questions regarding mediation. I’ve put together a list of questions and answers to help shed some light on the ins and outs of mediation. Q: Why would I mediate instead of cho…

New clients often have questions regarding mediation. I’ve put together a list of questions and answers to help shed some light on the ins and outs of mediation.

Q: Why would I mediate instead of choosing typical litigation?

A: There are several reasons why mediation is better than litigation:

  • It can be faster and less expensive
  • It's much more private
  • It tends to create less emotional turbulence for the couple
  • Court…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 29, 2015 at 11:55am — No Comments

If You Divorced in 2014, Read This Before Filing Your Taxes!

{2:45 minutes to read} If you were divorced in 2014 and are preparing to file your taxes, you need to be aware of which filing status to use. The filing status should be Single or Head of Household if you are divorced.  Can both parties claim Head of Household? You can if each party meets the qualifications.



You also need to think…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 10, 2015 at 9:00am — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

Have You Heard of Second Saturday? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's Institute for Financial Education. This…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:12pm — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

Have You Heard of Second Saturday? by Robert D. Bordett CFP, CDFA A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's Institute for Financial Education. This…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:12pm — No Comments

Have You Heard of Second Saturday?

A few months ago, I met with Ginita Wall, a CPA and Certified Financial Planner from San Diego. She's been offering divorce workshops called Second Saturday, which take place, appropriately, on the second Saturday of every month. These workshops began with a 26-year-old nonprofit organization, originally started by the Women's…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on April 5, 2015 at 6:00pm — No Comments

How Do You Divide Retirement Funds After a Divorce?

{2:30 to read} In virtually every divorce, assets are divided. However, dividing a teacher’s or other government employee’s retirement account is not possible in every state - as is the case with Georgia.

First some background: The division of retirement plans is governed by something called a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, or…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on March 19, 2015 at 2:00pm — No Comments

Knowing When to Ask for Help

Knowing When to Ask for Help by Robert D. Bordett In my practice, I call upon my professional network often.

Mediators like myself - who are trained in the financial piece of divorce - often reach out to other professionals when it comes to helping with the emotional side of divorce. This is the essence of team mediation; forming a team of professionals whose skills and training complement each other.

I've been…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 26, 2015 at 8:30pm — No Comments

Which Method Offers More Flexibility: ADR or Old-Fashioned Divorce?

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The differences between litigating a divorce and trying Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), like mediation and collaborative law, are numerous - but perhaps the most important area where these differences come into play is property.

Everything is fair game. You don't get to hide anything.…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 12, 2015 at 5:16pm — No Comments

How Can Hopes and Goals Help in Your Divorce?

If divorce becomes a reality for you in 2015, consider mediation. There are many different mediation models to choose from with new models coming to light in recent years, such as:

  • Team mediation
  • Family collaborative mediation
  • Integrated mediation



The three models mentioned above use similar tools…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on February 1, 2015 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Things to Consider When Completing the FAFSA

With the new year approaching, some parents are thinking about sending their son or daughter off to college. If you are one of those parents, you may be wondering how to complete the Free Application For Federal Student Aid (FAFSA), a gateway to all federal student aid. Whether you are married or divorced, consider the following questions before completing the FAFSA:

  • What is the definition of Expected Family Contribution (EFC)?
  • What is the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on January 1, 2015 at 12:41pm — No Comments

Filing Your Taxes after Divorce

Many couples divorce using mediation or collaborative divorce are able to dissolve the marriage in a cooperative and respectful way that takes every member of the family into consideration.

But there is another player: What you have to remember is that there is no touchy-feeliness about divorce in the eyes of the Internal Revenue Service. Filing your tax return after your divorce the first year could be tricky and more complicated than you think.

Items to think…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on December 16, 2014 at 3:34pm — No Comments

Fall Is for Continuing Education

October is the time of year for all sorts of professional conferences. Recently, I spent six days in San Diego where I attended 2 gatherings geared toward divorce professionals.

The first conference was organized by The Association of Divorce Financial Planners. This three-day conference was packed with intense coursework covering various financial issues that are likely to be…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on November 5, 2014 at 6:41pm — No Comments

Have You Started Preparing for Your Taxes Yet? Don't Get Surprised by an Unexpected Tax Bill - Do a Projection!

Autumn is upon us, and there is no better time for divorcing spouses to start thinking about tax preparation for the year 2014.

Even though we're 7 months away from having to file our taxes, once the clock strikes midnight on December 31, there's not much you can do. What if you didn't withhold enough? Wouldn't you like…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 17, 2014 at 1:48pm — No Comments

Affordable Care Act Updated Statistics

In December of 2013, I wrote an article about the Affordable Care Act and how it could help in divorce situations. The information available at the time did not specifically mention divorce, but it was nonetheless helpful for me in several instances.

A detailed set of new data was released by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) in…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on October 8, 2014 at 5:00pm — No Comments

7 Things to Consider in Your Divorce

In a divorce, both parties have many decisions to make. Whether it’s through mediation or a collaborative approach to divorce, these items are important to keep in mind:

1. Asset and liability division

  • How will assets be divided?
  • How much is your home worth?
  • Will you continue to co-own the home and sell it in the…
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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 22, 2014 at 4:12pm — No Comments

I Don't Want to Hear about the Process

As divorce professionals working in mediation and in collaborative divorce, we tend to talk a lot about the process, explaining to clients how the process works and what they can expect - sometimes verbally, and other times with the help of graphics or a combination of the two. We also tend to explain to the client that they make decisions, but we own the…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on September 11, 2014 at 3:00pm — No Comments

Managing Expectations in Divorce

When people come in for divorce, they often have their own ideas about what it is, how it will play out, and what the financial settlement will be. That is why it is so important to set realistic expectations for both parties. Whether it be a mediated or litigated divorce, here are some tips on how you can avoid serious disappointment - simply by managing your…

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Added by Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA on August 26, 2014 at 6:13pm — No Comments

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How Important Is the Budget in Divorce Planning?

I think everyone’s least favorite word is BUDGET. Why don’t we want to hear that word? Think about it: We’re asking ourselves to do something we don’t want to do — or worse yet, someone else is asking us to do it. While we might not like them, having a budget does help. In divorce planning — whether you are going to litigation,…See More
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21st Century Parenting Plans

I remember when the default custody arrangement had one parent as the custodial parent, and the other parent was known as the “Disneyland parent.” They had their children every other weekend, and maybe once during the week for dinner. Today it is more common to see joint parenting time consist of one week on, and one week off or “two-two-five-five” time,…See More
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Including a Financial Professional in Your Mediation

Very often, couples who are divorcing amicably, or who have straightforward financial situations, will forgo meeting with a financial professional while they go through mediation. Though this may seem logical on its face, “going it alone” may result in unnecessary hardship and inaccurate calculations.  It is easy to simply look at a tax table today and say “I am going…See More
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What About the House?

Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More
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