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Thanks for your vision and support

Hi Cynthia:

Many thanks for your email alert regarding National Child-Centered Divorce Month. Your support and enthusiasm makes all the difference in getting the word out. I sincerely appreciate your efforts to help spread the word through our community of divorce professionals out to the media and ultimately the public. May this nation be enriched and enlightened about this important subject in many significant ways by August 2008!

Added by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on July 1, 2008 at 1:44pm — 1 Comment

Special for Child Centered Divorce Month

Hi all,

I am a Divorce Coach and Consultant that helps women regroup, renew and reinvent themselves before, during and after divorce!

I am busy working with the experts, professionals and media here in New England on recognizing and bringing awareness to July as Child Centered Divorce month!

In recognition of this month, I am offering anyone who would like, a complimentary strategy… Continue

Added by Laura Campbell on July 1, 2008 at 11:34am — 1 Comment

Parenting After Divorce – Cooperative, Parallel, or Somewhere In-Between?

This excellent article was created by our Parenting Coordination expert, Cindy Harari, Esq.

One of many difficult things parents must do after divorce is deal with their child’s other parent. While some aspects of “the deal” are spelled out in documents such as temporary or permanent court orders or final marital settlement agreements, most of the “parenting” details are not explicitly written down.

For example, a document provides that the child spends every… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on July 1, 2008 at 11:30am — 1 Comment

July is National Child-Centered Divorce Month -- bringing attention to children's emotional needs when parents divorce or separate

Professionals are Joining Forces to Spread the Word

The second annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Professionals who deal with divorce issues -- therapists, attorneys, mediators, coaches, educators, clergy and others – will be joining forces to share valuable parenting messages. One of the most significant is: Don’t make your child a pawn in your conflict. Instead, put your children's needs… Continue

Added by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on June 14, 2008 at 1:00pm — 2 Comments

Cinderella Wisdom and Creating Financial Abundance Teleclasses in June

I am hostessing two teleclasses this month, and the first one is my GIFT in honor of "bride's month"! I would love to invite all readers and members of Peaceful Divorce to join me.

Teleclass 1: Cinderella Wisdom!

Date: June 12 , 2008

Time: 7:00 – 8: 30 pm MT

Cost: FREE, my gift to you in honor of

"Bride's Month".

Cinderella Wisdom Teleclass

Do you struggle with conflict or… Continue

Added by Debra Gordy MS MRET on June 4, 2008 at 6:30pm — No Comments

The Toughest Question Posed by Women Considering Divorce

As a Transformational Relationship Therapist specializing in assisting divorced and divorcing women to heal from their divorce, people ask me lots of tough questions. The toughest question by far that I am asked is: "Should I stay or should I go?"

Wow! So much is behind that question! This is the topic of the June issue of my ezine, Creating Joy! This monthly ezine is FREE, and only goes to subscribers, so that it is welcome and valued by those who read it.

I would… Continue

Added by Debra Gordy MS MRET on June 4, 2008 at 6:11pm — No Comments

How To Get A Divorce If You Want Your Kids To Lose

I read an article about a divorce custody fight in one of the major local papers down here in South Florida. Even for a reformed "killer" divorce lawyer turned divorce mediator such as myself, it made me sick to see what can happen when the divorce process spins out of control. This case truly epitomizes how to get a divorce if you want your kids to be the ones who really lose.

In this divorce case, each of the parties hired the highest-powered, gun-slinging divorce lawyers… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on June 2, 2008 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Nolo Press Founder Gives Away His Best!

Our amazing and prolific member, Ed Sherman, Esq., founder of Nolo Press, has a free product that no divorce professional or person facing divorce should be without. It is called:

A Free Guide to a Peaceful Divorce,

Make Any Case Smoother, Less Painful, Less Expensive

Click on:, to see a picture of the Guides, and click on that picture (it’s a link)… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 19, 2008 at 11:00am — No Comments

Rosalind Sedacca & Christina Rowe invite Youtube's outspoken "Divorce Lady" to the Largest Divorce Party in the U.S.

Authors invite Tricia Walsh-Smith to celebrate her divorce with

300 South Florida divorcees

Fort Lauderdale, FL: After watching Tricia Walsh-Smith on complaining about her impending divorce, authors Christina Rowe and Rosalind Sedacca, hosts of the Largest Divorce Party in the nation, decided to invite Ms.Walsh to their next Divorce Party on May 30th. Hundreds of divorced men and women from South Florida have been gathering at Christopher’s Night Club in… Continue

Added by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on May 13, 2008 at 1:29pm — 2 Comments

Creating Inner And Outer Peace With Susan Allan

Our amazing member Susan Allan of, is at it again! On May 29th,she is providing a free event for those local to the Santa Monica area (if you aren't local, it will be available later on DVD) called:

Creating Inner and Outer Peace with Susan Allan, America’s leading Marriage and Divorce Coach, creator of The Heartspace System & Patricia Fitzgerald, Doctor of Holistic Medicine and Author of The Detox Solution.

Dr. Fitzgerald, a leading national expert… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 13, 2008 at 12:30pm — 1 Comment

Divorce Settlement: Inspire The Desire

I recently had a divorce mediation where, as often is the case, I was working with two divorce lawyers and two co-parents who couldn't stand each other. It literally took me hours to get them into the same room together and, although these parties had many written divorce settlement agreements between them, years later we were still there, fighting over interpretation and compliance.

In speaking with them alone (I sent the lawyers out of the room to do child support and other… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 12, 2008 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Holding The Vision

What would you like your relationship with your spouse or ex-spouse to look like? Have you ever thought about it? How can you get what you want, if you don't know what you want?

Most people spend their time thinking about what they don't want, rather than what they do want. You know that what you focus on expands.

How about sitting down and figuring out what your perfect relationship with them would look like? Whether you are going to stay married or get…

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 7, 2008 at 9:00pm — No Comments

Peer Pressure

Why do such a large percentage of people find it difficult to accept the lack of animosity we feel toward each other? So many feel that we should not talk, not smile at each other, not share a meal.

For example, I (briefly) dated a woman here in Santa Barbara, whom I will call Mary. Mary has two grown children and has been separated from her husband for over a decade. Mary and I had dated twice when she saw my (soontobeEx) wife, myself and a friend at a local jazz club.

I,… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 6, 2008 at 6:30pm — 1 Comment

Honor Your Ex

Why not continue to honor her even though we are no longer compatible as marriage partners?

Why give her less honor than I would give any woman in any situation just because I happened to have been married to her?

In fact, to honor her less would be an insult to my own ability to select a marriage mate in the beginning. Perhaps she was the perfect choice for me at the time but is no longer.

I choose to honor her as a I would any person, and to honor her so as to… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:46pm — 1 Comment

Let It Slide

I find that objectively looking at what is best for the children causes me to set aside my pride and sense of entitlement and accept a situation that otherwise might cause me to retaliate in anger.

Remembering that the unkind things that my partner occasionally says are a byproduct of the stress she is feeling and not indicative of who I really am as a person, helps me take things in stride. Her opinion is skewed by her current emotional state, not necessarily by any legitimate… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 10:30pm — 1 Comment

Don't Bad Mouth Your Ex or SoonToBe Ex

We all have experienced the pain of hearing that someone, perhaps even a close friend, has said something negative about our character, appearance, family, etc.

It also seems that often those comments have been taken out of context, exaggerated, or even completely fabricated. Nevertheless, it hurts to hear that others think poorly of us. And if indeed someone did deliberately defame us, that is especially painful.

Why say anything about our ex-partner that could be… Continue

Added by Kevin Bourke on May 5, 2008 at 2:40pm — 1 Comment

Powerful Peaceful Divorce Players Interviewed!

Two powerful interviews around the subject of Peaceful Divorce have now been posted right here! Scroll down below the videos to the music player and you'll find these nuggets of gold!

Don’t miss the “Heartspace System” interview of Susan Allan by Belinda Rachman, Esq. and hear Susan's breakthrough system that has had powerful and positive results in both reconciling marriages, and in creating peaceful divorces!

Also just posted is Cynthia Tiano, Esq.’s radio interview on… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on May 2, 2008 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Board Certified Divorce Lawyers and Peaceful Divorce?

When you decide to start looking for a divorce attorney, do you think about going to a divorce lawyer who is "Board Certified"? One who has been certified by his/her peers as an "expert" who specializes in matrimonial law? Well, you may want to re-think that idea if you want a peaceful divorce.

Although it varies from state to state, the requirements for a divorce lawyer to become a board certified divorce attorney are often based upon how much time that lawyer spends in trial. Think… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on April 26, 2008 at 11:30pm — 2 Comments

What to advise clients who are thinking of divorce

Every now and then you will get a call from a client asking for a referral to a divorce attorney. Like all referral situations, a recommendation can have serious repercussions if the work isn't done properly or the parties don't like each other. You can win or lose big depending on the outcome. You want to steer your client in the right direction but just don't know who to trust with your most precious resources, your reputation and your clients.

The words that you are about to read… Continue

Added by Belinda Rachman, Esq. on March 20, 2008 at 9:29am — No Comments

Mediate, Don’t Litigate!

For the life of me, I can’t figure out why anyone would litigate their divorce when they have the option to mediate. Is it even possible in this day and age that anyone considering getting a divorce, in the middle of a divorce, or already divorced and still fighting with their ex hasn’t heard about divorce mediation?

Ask anyone who has been to divorce court how they liked that experience. We know who the only winners are there – the divorce lawyers! But don’t blame them, if you hire… Continue

Added by Cynthia Tiano, Esq. on February 21, 2008 at 3:30pm — 1 Comment

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