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Cynthia Tiano, Esq., Peaceful Divorce Mediator/Coach

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I am a licensed family law attorney practicing in Florida since 1982, and a Florida Supreme Court Certified Mediator since 1995. In 1996 I let go of my litigation practice to practice exclusively family mediation and have mediated hundreds of family cases since that time.

I bring my experience as a certified mediator along with my 14 years of family law litigation experience to help lawyers resolve high-conflict, complex family cases containing issues such as co-parenting, child support, alimony, equitable distribution of property, and any other issue surrounding the breakup of a partnered family relationship.

I am the co-author of the book and audio program, “Happily Divorced! Secrets of the Win-Win Formula” which I created with Dr. Max Vogel, a well-respected relationship psychologist with over 30 years' experience. This program is written both from the perspective of the litigating attorney and the mediator, and Dr. Max provides psychological insight and practical steps for the client. You can find the program here:

I am also the founder of this Peaceful Divorce Network, and am the co-creator and presenter of the Florida CLE course, “Introduction to the Peaceful Divorce Model.”

A large part of my practice has focused on high-conflict co-parenting mediation, including post-judgment matters. I approach these challenging situations in a way that helps to transform and heal the relationship between the co-parents and concentrates on providing techniques that the parties can use to produce inproved communication and harmony that will last.


phone: 954.561.0105
The gripping tales in "Happily Divorced!" take you deep into the never-before-revealed real psycho-legal world of divorce! This book is guaranteed to change the way the world divorces from the battleground to a peaceful divorce!

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How To Get A Divorce The Peaceful Way - Even If Your Ex Is Not On Board!

In my 30 years as a divorce attorney, and especially the last 16 years that I have been a divorce mediator, and now as a counselor, a phrase I have heard very often when I get up on my soapbox about Peaceful Divorce is, “but you don’t know my ex!” or “it’s not possible to have a peaceful divorce in my situation”. Not so. You CAN learn how to get a divorce the peaceful way, whether your spouse or ex is on board right now or not.

Now that may not be what you want to hear because what it…


Posted on May 22, 2012 at 10:00am — 3 Comments

A Peaceful Divorce Begins With You!

Thanks to member Krista Barth, Esq. who has provided this valuable message about how to create and maintain a peaceful divorce when you are a parent.

As a divorce attorney who has been through it myself, a peaceful divorce starts when people do the following:

1. Accept the part you each played in the failure of the marriage (even if the only fault was "picking the wrong partner for your needs.")

2. Lower your expectations… Continue

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 8:00am — 2 Comments

Forgiveness can be a valuable gift in your Divorce

Generously shared by member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

One of the consequences of a difficult divorce is being left with negative emotions about the experience. Many people struggle with long-term anger, bitterness,

revenge and/or rage following a divorce that they either can't, or choose not

to release.

Are you angry or bitter because you feel wronged by your former… Continue

Posted on April 12, 2010 at 1:00pm

The 8-Step Formula for Positive Post-Divorce Parenting: Part 1

Here is another great article from member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

Parenting after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges and raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this two-part article we'll review some of the major components of the post-divorce parenting success formula.


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Posted on December 11, 2009 at 12:27am

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At 12:24pm on June 28, 2012, Len Nassi, CFP (R), CDFA (TM) said…

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Thank you for your kind comment and suggestion. I have edited the blog post and please feel free to feature it on the main page.  I look forward to meeting.


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At 9:49pm on September 16, 2010, Rebecca Weeks-Henes said…
Cynthia...Thank you. We spoke the other morning while you were on your way to see Rev Tita...I was just a bit jelly of you here...LOL! I admit, I miss Unity SO much! Right now...just baby stepping it...
At 6:43am on June 18, 2010, Mark Banschick MD said…
Let me know how I can contribute to your work. Noble.
I am a child psychiatrist and like you worked in the courts, in my case as an expert witness in New York.
My book, The Intelligent Divorce, is the first of a three part series, in which I guide parents through divorce with their eye always on the kids. This book deals with taking care of children. The next one is about self care in divorce and the third is about managing the power struggles with a difficult ex spouse. I am having fun writing all this stuff after doing this work for twenty years!

If you would like a copy of the book, let me know.
I would appreciate your take on it.

We are contributing to a new approach to divorce. Thank God.
There will always be power struggles (they are in marriage as well), but they can be managed and not heightened. This is the peaceful divorce.

ps: I call it The Intelligent Divorce because peace is asking a lot. ;)
At 11:58am on June 13, 2010, Shari N. Hines, Esq. said…
Thanks Cynthia!
At 8:46am on June 3, 2010, Lori Barkus said…
Hi Cynthia,
Thanks for the post. I am a divorce attorney and mediator in Weston, Florida. Began receiving your emails a few months ago and I am very interested in the Peaceful Divorce process. I'm a member of the collaborative lawyers and believe in that model, but it is not for everyone and some clients do not feel comfortable committing to it. I would love to connect and learn more about what you do.
At 9:00am on January 25, 2010, Deborah Divine said…
Thanks Cynthia,
I have been through a TransParenting (what it is called in our area) class that was mandated by our court system. Currently my husband and I are in mediation. It seems to be going very slowly. I love the idea of transparenting but then I look at who I am dealing with and it just fills me with dread. We have (against my better judgement) agreed to 50/50 week with me, one week with him. Our oldest daughter (15 1/2) doesn't like it at all and is afraid her life will change drastically. I told her it shouldn't be any different than what her life is now except of where she will sleep. Our youngest daughter (12) is fine with it and actually wanted it that way.
Now, I am concerned about the financial aspect of everything. He has always paid all bills relating to the house and I have always paid bills pertaining to medical, vehicles and maintenance of the girls and I. I have always had a 401K and as far as I know he has no type of savings whatsoever. Knowing how he is about always coming out on top in situations like this...I want to be sure everything is done fairly. He is a realtor by profession. I am an administrative assistant. I am not looking to be vindictive but since he isn't willing to relinquish the house (says he can't afford to go out and get another one) I feel I am left to do so. As of now, we are currently in the same house which isn't doing anyone (especially the girls and I) any good. I have never been a vindictive person and don't plan on starting now. We both have secured seperate legal counsel but everytime I call with a question I see $$ signs going out the is unreal!
One question I do have is our state (IN) everything is 50/50 so where does the responsibility of bills end? From the date I filed? or is he able to go out and wrack up credit card bills in expectations of me having to pay 1/2?
Any help or direction you could give me would be greatly appreciated.Delete Comment
At 3:06pm on November 2, 2009, Melanie Brubaker said…
The puzzle piece I bring to the table of the peaceful divorce is my ability to bring equilibrium or realistic expectations to the final outcome and to keep the importance of the children at the forefront but not in the line of fire. I keep my clients informed throughout the process as a means to calm the divorce angst as much as possible. I also believe in empowering my clients by guiding him/her to the resources s/he will need to achieve a win/win outcome for a healthy, vibrant family post-divorce.
At 2:39pm on July 6, 2009, Brooke D. Goldfarb said…
Hi, Cynthia, Although I am a lawyer, I'm happiest when I play the role of mediator because I enjoy encouraging both parties to express themselves and working out language that everyone can live with. As I am a lawyer by training, I also enjoy working in a collaborative divorce. Most of the time I work as the mediator and I bring in a financial advisor to help the couple with the numbers and sometimes a mental health therapist to help with the parent coordination, all of us as neutrals. The couple truly benefits from having a "divorce transition team" in place. I never give up on the couple. I stand for the resolution of all issues. I'm kind of the cheerleader and coach for the couple as well as the drafter of the documents. I also try to keep them laughing and diffuse the tension with humor.
At 1:40pm on June 24, 2009, Kristi Sutter said…
Hi Cynthia,
My piece to the peaceful divorce puzzle is helping individuals explore their childhood experiences and relationships and how they use these to select a partner. Looking at their attempt to repeat what is familiar to them, or attempt repairing what is familiar but not satisfying, can be life changing. I have seen the anger decrease between partners when each realizes that their being together was not a chance happening. Understanding this process can produce compassion for each partner's struggle taking blame away. This is a difficult process. Some partners would rather blame and stay angry. Those who can look at themselves will grow, change and look at divorce as an opportunity.

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