C. Paul Wanio, Ph.D., LMFT, LMHC. I am a psychotherapist licensed in FL & CA with a private practice in Boca Raton and Lake Worth, FL. I am the author of the book, “I Love You …I Think: When Sex Disguises Itself As Love” (and working on the new, expanded version). I am also a contributor to Rosalind Sedacca’s book, “How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?”
My piece of “The Peaceful Divorce Puzzle” is prevention. For over 30 years, I have practiced individual psychotherapy and specialize in working with couples. My “starting place” is to tell a couple that “no resolution to a problem should ever be at the expense of yourself, your spouse, your child or your relationship.” I then help them to accomplish that. We start with communication, which either works or points the direction to where we must focus – where pain, fear or anger resides and restricts love.
When leaving a relationship, we need to know if it is the right thing to do. We do not want to later say, “I wonder what might have been if I had said or done such-and-such.” Rather, to be able to say, “You know, I actually DID do and say such-and-such, and I DO know the answer to that. I did everything that I could… within reason.”
When a relationship ends because the couple was truly not good for one another, it is sad. However, when a couple was “right” for each other, but never found out because of not knowing how to communicate or handle strong emotions, then it is more than sad. It is tragic.
My role is to help couples discover whether they can create a successful relationship together… or not. If not, I will then refer them to other professionals (mediators, attorneys, therapists, groups, etc.) who can help them to make the transition to a new life as smoothly and healthy as possible.
I may be reached at: 561-251-0202, or email: CPWanio@aol.com
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