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Started by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Jan 25, 2008.

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Comment by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on June 6, 2010 at 2:00pm
Divorce Professionals throughout North America Planning 4th annual
National Child-Centered Divorce Month –
bringing attention to children’s needs
when parents divorce or separate

West Palm Beach, FL: The fourth annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place in July throughout North America. The month is dedicated to alerting parents about the consequences of their behaviors and decisions upon their children during and after a divorce. Professionals who share these concerns, including therapists, attorneys, mediators, financial planners, coaches, educators, clergy and others, will be joining forces to share their advice and insights about minimizing the negative efforts of divorce on children. The resounding message to divorcing parents is: Regardless of your own emotional state, it is essential to put your children's needs first when making decisions related to divorce or separation.

National Child-Centered Divorce Month was initiated by divorced parent and author Rosalind Sedacca, a certified corporate trainer on relationship issues recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce. Sedacca founded the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and works closely with a broad group of concerned legal experts, divorce therapists, educators and others who are focused on providing ways to create the most positive and harmonious outcomes for families transitioning through divorce.

“I am passionate about enlisting the nation’s legal, therapeutic and educational communities to bring a heightened awareness to parents about their responsibility to their children’s well-being before, during and after divorce,” says Sedacca, who is the author of the professionally acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love! “We can never overemphasize how dramatically parental decisions about divorce can affect their children – for years – and often for a lifetime.”

Professionals around the nation will be announcing free ebooks, teleseminars, workshops, discussion groups, coaching and other activities of an educational and motivational nature for divorced parents and those contemplating divorce.

Parents and divorce professionals interested in learning more about activities related to National Child-Centered Divorce Month can get involved through a number of resources that will be participating and posting relevant information. These include,, and

Additional information will be avaialbe through the Child-Centered Divorce Groups on LinkedIn and Facebook which are free for parents and divorce professionals to join.

The goal, according to Sedacca, is to unite and spread the word that “when parents divorce, their children need them more than ever. Learn how to avoid the mistakes that create emotional pain for your children. Get the support you need to move on in the best ways for your children and yourself. Stay out of the courts whenever possible. Be a responsible, loving parent who understands your children’s needs for both parents in their lives. Don't let them down.”

For more information about Child-Centered Divorce Month in July contact Sedacca directly at or visit her website at: where she provides free articles, her blog, free ezine and many useful resources for parents transitioning through divorce and beyond. Scroll to the bottom of the Home page for updates.
Comment by Jodi Seitlin on February 10, 2010 at 3:27pm
I recently found out about this forum and want to share a few thoughts. Especially when children are involved, one party may decide to divorce long before the other. How and to what extent the parties communicate with each other leading up to this decision is not something that happens in a vaccuum. The kids know it all; they feel it all, no matter how vigilantly we protect them from the adult conflicts. So consider treating your child as the intelligent, perceptive person s/he is and discuss how and why this new family structure is better. I'm not advocating letting the children call the shots or become theadults, obviously. But they are stakeholders in the family who need the same stability, guidance, comfort and consistency from both of their parents that they had when y'all were in phase 1. If we start with the premise that family life gets better because everybody is happier with the (evolving) new family structure, the kids just might be okay with the changes. It's pretty hard to argue against an approach that helps ensure your children's happiness and peace of mind.
Comment by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on September 22, 2009 at 7:18pm
Welcome! Great connecting with you here. I am recognized as the Voice of Child-Centered Divorce and I work with therapists, attorneys, mediators, coaches and other divorce professionals in reaching out to their clients and helping them make the best positive decisions regarding their children before, during and after divorce. You can learn more about my book, coaching, ezine and valuable free resources for parents at

I welcome your feedback and dialogue here regarding issues that challenge us all!

Comment by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on October 28, 2008 at 1:30pm
Parental Alienation has been a huge issue in the news of late. The issue pits moms against dads which, to me, is so sad -- especially because of its effects on their children.

What are your feelings about this -- and how can we stand together and get heard?

Comment by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT on March 28, 2008 at 8:50pm
July is Child-Centered Divorce Month, the perfect time to remind your clients, colleagues, the media and other resources in your world about the advantages of creating a child-centered divorce right from the initial conversations.

What do you do to enlighten clients about this important choice in the future of their family's well-being? How can we encourage others to take advantage of the wisdom available to them on this subject?


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