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Thank you so much Sheila for this inspiring post. It is gratifying to know that our sister state of Hawaii understands the importance of peaceful divorce and provides programs and resources to help families peacefully move through this challenging time of transition.
Let's all hold the vision that through our combined voices these concepts become embraced nationally and world-wide!
I love the name of the website, and actually found it by typing in the words "peaceful divorce". Such a good way to reach out and offer resources to divorcing people.
I am the director of a community mediation center which has done pro bono and reduced fee mediations for 17 years in our county. Private mediation fees are now up to $200-300/hr and higher, with a two hour minimum. Many times, parties experience mediation as---at best---tedious and something to get through---and worse, as an unempowered arm-twisting process which can cost as much as legal representation. We use the co-mediation model, and try to assign two mediators, a male and a female, to mediate our divorces and post-divorce cases, as well as handling "never-married" parents who need agreements on visitation, custody and support.
I am also an attorney who does collaborative divorces and uncontested divorces. In all these types of services, I depend on our ability to screen people so that I know when people are "mediation ready" and have the capacity to solve their own disputes. I also screen for presence of fear and intimidation caused by harm to child and/or domestic violence. I envision a time when as many people as possible will be aware they divorce in an informed, empowering, child-centered way, and save their money and stress levels for other things which are bound to come---teenagers, college funds, etc.
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One of the guiding values in mediation and collaborative law is transparency. It comes with the territory when one is trying to establish trust with two different parties. Sometimes an issue may arise that one party may wish not to discuss in front of the other. If they both agree, separate meetings may take place. These meetings are called caucuses.Caucuses can be…See More
I think everyone’s least favorite word is BUDGET. Why don’t we want to hear that word? Think about it: We’re asking ourselves to do something we don’t want to do — or worse yet, someone else is asking us to do it. While we might not like them, having a budget does help. In divorce planning — whether you are going to litigation,…See More
I remember when the default custody arrangement had one parent as the custodial parent, and the other parent was known as the “Disneyland parent.” They had their children every other weekend, and maybe once during the week for dinner. Today it is more common to see joint parenting time consist of one week on, and one week off or “two-two-five-five” time,…See More
Very often, couples who are divorcing amicably, or who have straightforward financial situations, will forgo meeting with a financial professional while they go through mediation. Though this may seem logical on its face, “going it alone” may result in unnecessary hardship and inaccurate calculations. It is easy to simply look at a tax table today and say “I am going…See More
Going through divorce means dealing with hundreds of details, some more important than others. One detail that merits extra contemplation is how to deal with the marital home.Does one spouse want to keep it because the children still live there? You don't want to disrupt their lives any more than is already happening. What if the children are grown? Do you still need that much of a house?Here are the three most common means of dealing with the house in divorce:Selling the house and dividing the…See More