Every member of this site has their own unique message around the issue of Peaceful Divorce. When we each share the piece that we have with one another, we can put the puzzle together! Please share with us what your mission and your message is!
Thank you so much Sheila for this inspiring post. It is gratifying to know that our sister state of Hawaii understands the importance of peaceful divorce and provides programs and resources to help families peacefully move through this challenging time of transition.
Let's all hold the vision that through our combined voices these concepts become embraced nationally and world-wide!
I love the name of the website, and actually found it by typing in the words "peaceful divorce". Such a good way to reach out and offer resources to divorcing people.
I am the director of a community mediation center which has done pro bono and reduced fee mediations for 17 years in our county. Private mediation fees are now up to $200-300/hr and higher, with a two hour minimum. Many times, parties experience mediation as---at best---tedious and something to get through---and worse, as an unempowered arm-twisting process which can cost as much as legal representation. We use the co-mediation model, and try to assign two mediators, a male and a female, to mediate our divorces and post-divorce cases, as well as handling "never-married" parents who need agreements on visitation, custody and support.
I am also an attorney who does collaborative divorces and uncontested divorces. In all these types of services, I depend on our ability to screen people so that I know when people are "mediation ready" and have the capacity to solve their own disputes. I also screen for presence of fear and intimidation caused by harm to child and/or domestic violence. I envision a time when as many people as possible will be aware they divorce in an informed, empowering, child-centered way, and save their money and stress levels for other things which are bound to come---teenagers, college funds, etc.
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Perhaps you’ve heard about the phenomenon known as the “grey divorce” and are wondering what it’s all about. An important study conducted by the Department of Sociology and the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University entitled “The Grey Divorce Revolution” addressed this issue. I was attending the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts’…See More
I recently attended a conference for The Academy of Professional Family Mediators in Memphis, Tennessee. One of the workshops I participated in was on elder care mediation, which gave some fascinating insights. A 2001 study, done by Debra B. Gentry, showed nearly 40% of adult children providing care for their parents reported serious conflict with siblings, usually related to a lack of sufficient help from those siblings. This study…See More
I very much appreciate working on divorce cases with a team, as it has so much value for clients. Mental health professionals can bring much-needed clarity to very difficult situations. The following article, written by Howard Dructman, PhD and Marsha Schechtman, LCSW, Atlanta Behavioral Consultants, explains how the concept of parallel parenting works:A literature…See More
We all hate the word budget. How many times have you had a budget that never worked and only made life harder? And when you didn't follow it, did you feel like you failed?If a budget is done right, it will provide many benefits that are crucial when going through a divorce.A budget is a guideline to help you forecast how your cash flow will look.Having a budget keeps your priorities and values straight. Many…See More
People have a range of preconceptions about divorce, the law, and the courts. In reality, going before a judge to air your grievances about your soon-to-be ex-spouse is rarely as satisfying as movies and television shows may have you believe. Mediation offers a private, cost-efficient alternative to litigation—but before you choose either venue, there are some guiding principles to keep in mind:Don't expect…See More
Time flies when you’re having fun; here we find ourselves in a new year, with new challenges ahead—and of course our taxes are due. So let’s bring you up to date on some tax changes that we know of. (Remember this year could bring other tax changes that we don’t know about at this time).One big change is that 1099s have to be in to the IRS by January 31st of his…See More
The Association of Divorce Financial Planners held their annual conference this past October. One of the keynote speakers was Mary Beth Franklin, CFP, who is a contributing editor for Investment News. She spoke about the new Social Security rules and how to maximize benefits. Here is part of her talk relating to divorce:If married at least 10 years and currently unmarried, you may be able to collect on your ex-spouse’s work record as…See More
I recently attended The Association of Divorce Financial Planners 2016 Divorce Catalyst Conference, held from October 27-29. There were a number of excellent speakers and interesting topics presented over the three days: Day OneThe keynote speaker was Jeff Brend. Jeff is an attorney who specializes in family law and is a fellow of the American Academy of…See More
One of the things I have learned over the years is that I cannot be a Jack-of-all-trades and a master-of-none. In today’s ever-changing world, we need to have connections with professionals in other disciplines and specialties. This is especially true working in the divorce area.In the past, it was the attorney’s job to do everything. Today divorcing…See More
In my last blog, I had an article by Scott Evans about ARM Rates. This is a continuation of mortgages. Scott Evans wrote about Home Equity Line Resets. Home Equity Line ResetsFor some, other looming issues are Home…See More
One of the things I have learned over the years is that we cannot be a Jack-of-all-trades and a master-of-none. In today’s ever-changing world, we need to have connections with professionals in other disciplines and specialities. This is especially true working in the divorce area.I think it is important that we do the same thing and have our own list of…See More
The simple answer to the question of why you should choose the collaborative process for your divorce is that it preserves the family relationship. Clients that have engaged in the collaborative process have said the following regarding their experience with collaborative divorce: “The collaborative process gave me the opportunity to…See More