Which Piece of the Peaceful Divorce Puzzle Do You Have?

[Cynthia Tiano, Esq.]

Every member of this site has their own unique message around the issue of Peaceful Divorce. When we each share the piece that we have with one another, we can put the puzzle together! Please share with us what your mission and your message is!

[Rosalind Sedacca, CCT]

Thanks for those excellent descriptions of what "peaceful divorce" offers to both sides of the splitting couple. I would like to use your words in an upcoming ezine article focused on that very concept.

I believe too many couples have never considered or been exposed to a consciousness that sees "gifts" in the divorce process or alternatives that might truly be peaceful and supportive. As our work spreads I know more and more souls will resonate with this message and make more "conscious" choices regarding all their relationship and divorce challenges.

[Sue K. Varon]

My mission is to provide divorcing couples and couples who are about to marry with a forum in which to peacefully resolve issues they have concerning their marriage or impending marriage and their children. In a neutral setting, couples have the opportunity to discuss options and come up with mutually acceptable solutions with the assistance of myself, as the mediator, and a financial neutral. I utilize a multi-disciplinary mediation approach, facilitative, evaluative and transformative, to help the participants focus on the issues, while providing them with the opportunity to explain their positions.

[Cynthia Tiano, Esq.]

Sue, what a great service to provide! Sharing those tools with couples are invaluable to preserve the integrity of the family, intact or otherwise. Kudos to you!

[Cynthia Tiano, Esq.]

This reply is from our new member Kristi Sutter, LMFT and a Parent Coordinator:

My piece to the peaceful divorce puzzle is helping individuals explore their childhood experiences and relationships and how they use these to select a partner. Looking at their attempt to repeat what is familiar to them, or attempt repairing what is familiar but not satisfying, can be life changing. I have seen the anger decrease between partners when each realizes that their being together was not a chance happening. Understanding this process can produce compassion for each partner's struggle taking blame away. This is a difficult process. Some partners would rather blame and stay angry. Those who can look at themselves will grow, change and look at divorce as an opportunity.

[Rosalind Sedacca, CCT]

I love your response and concur about its validity. A great way to open the door to meaningful change within each individual and the couple. Thanks for sharing this valuable insight for us all to explore.

Best regards,
Rosalind
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce

[Linda Gamble]

My mission and piece to the Peaceful Divorce puzzle is varied but mainly one of fostering empowerment. I have seen too much of the profound and many times permanent financial and emotional devastation that litigation can produce. People's futures are altered by this process, none more than the children involved. Families are not destroyed by divorce, they are destroyed by conflict, and the traditional divorce trial process holds nothing but upheaval and depletion of personal and family strengths. I think many parents enter into litigation out of fear of the unknown, of what they may lose, of change, and end up being led down a very rocky and unnecessary road by the court system. I hope to provide alternatives to couples who want to continue being the best parents they can be after their personal relationship has changed, and I hope to educate others that may be conflict focused on what can be done differently. In my practice I find that keeping the roles of Parent Coordinator, Custody Evaluator, Therapist and Mediator separate is difficult. I cannot be more than one to any family. But I think having those varying perspectives provides a broad base to offer guidance from and to link with other professionals in the field as a member of a team.

[Cynthia Tiano, Esq.]

Linda, thank you for that insightful and inspirational reply. We are honored to have you as a member here, and believe that as our numbers grow, families and humanity in general will be uplifted and empowered.

Keep up the good work!

Cynthia

[Rosalind Sedacca, CCT]

Thanks for your insights. I totally agree with your perspective and hope you will join me in spreading the word about just that through National Child-Centered Divorce Month in July. Read more about it at www.childcentereddivorce.com at the bottom of the Home page. Join me, as well, at the Child-Centered Divorce Group at LinkedIn.

Regards,
Rosalind Sedacca

[Ashley Davis Bush]

Hello! I was delighted to find your website. I'm a psychotherapist and have been working with grievers for the past 20 years. I turned my attention specifically to 'divorcers' in the last 2 years (since my own collaborative divorce in 2007, actually). My piece of the puzzle is that I stress lessons from eastern religious traditions to help couples divorce more peacefully. I emphasize forgiveness, compassion, acceptance, karma, mindfulness, and meditation to help individuals stay grounded and resist the temptation to escalate hostilities. I'm thrilled that there are so many like-minded professionals to help create a new template for divorce!

[Cynthia Tiano, Esq.]

We are delighted to have you here! Thanks for sharing your "piece of the puzzle" with us. Please feel free to post relevant articles or blog posts, audios or videos, and to connect with your peers here.

If you need any help, please let me know!