Having a former spouse or co-parent who is not "on the same page" is one of many challenges during or after divorce. You can stay stuck in a place where you say: "he/she doesn't get it, will never get it, won't do it any other way" or take this time in your life as an opportunity to start doing things differently by shifting the focus to you.

When you say or do something, you cause a response or reaction. If you change the way you say or do things, you cause a change in the response or reaction… Continue

Here is another great article from member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

Parenting after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges and raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this two-part article we'll review some of the major components of the post-divorce parenting success formula.

Step 1: ATTITUDE

Attitude plays a big part in the success… Continue

If you are a separated or divorced parent, you need to communicate with your child’s other parent. Even though you are no longer living together, and, in some cases, especially because you are no longer living together, conflicts about your children (minor ones and major ones) may arise with greater frequency.

What do you do? Hopefully, you calmly discuss and resolve issues such as pick-ups and drop-offs, schedule changes, money, extracurricular activities, and family matters with your c… Continue

Here is another great article from member Rosalind Sedacca, CCT:
When children get caught up in their parent's divorce conflicts, serious problems can develop that must be avoided at all costs. Regardless of your feelings about your ex or soon-to-be-former spouse, it is essential to keep that from your children.
Here are some excellent tips and advice offered by James Roberts, RSW, a licensed social worker in Missouri and Kansas and family therapist in Kansas. Mr. Roberts practices with M… Continue

Helping clients take the peaceful path while divorcing is a two-pronged approach. There’s the behavioral piece (not hiring a killer attorney, not making your ex an enemy, not badmouthing your ex) and there’s the emotional piece. In my experience, clients need to commit emotionally to doing the inner work to avoid becoming a bitter victim. I have turned to some of the wisdom and compassion of Buddhism as a template for guiding clients to find that inner well-spring of peace, even while going thro… Continue